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Old 11-26-2010, 11:30 PM   #1
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The big penis debate

I'm new here and saw the plethora of penis size matters/doesn't matter posts. I figured I'd add my two cents, albeit it is beating a rotting horse.

I'm writing this because I've seen men and younger men here worried about their penis size, so I will write about my personal experience...

If the following is too graphic, my apologies-I'm just trying to be honest and to the point. It isn't like I'm the only one who's gone through this...

I have always had a very strong libido. In sixth grade I started to get pubic hair and started to masturbate as often as I could: when I didn't have school and my parents weren't home it would be over and over, all day. But my penis was short-the head wouldn't even emerge from my hand when I was holding it. I never took a shower after PE! I was terrified!

High-school wasn't much different. But I was VERY interested in girls. My nocturnal emissions and ejaculate when masturbating were a LOT, and that gave me some confidence. But I was terrified that a girl might say I was small.

I read as much as I could about women and what they liked when having sex, and as weird as it may seem, I would look at some pictures and read some erotic stories while masturbating, and each time I was close I would stop or slow down. I noticed that the "huge penis" thing was not given nearly as much importance as how to pleasure their clitoris. I would do this sometimes for 3 or 4 hours (still do). ANd it did a LOT for stamina.

I was a virgin until my first year in college. By then I had been working out for years and I was in very good shape-and my penis had grown to about double the size and girth. I was a late bloomer.

My penis has varied in size too. It all seems to vary with stress, temperature, etc. When I went to see my Dr about a rash I walked in and immediately dropped my pants telling him that I had to before it hid away in fear.

I had my fun in college, and was then with one woman for 7 years. I would usually concentrate first on making her orgasm from foreplay and oral sex several times, and then I would enter her. I could barley enter her even though she was very wet. I had to work myself in little by little, and from behind I could not enter her all the way. And my penis is not pornstar material by any means.

Later I lost my job, my place, my uncle, my aunt, and my father in a short period. I fell apart. I gained about 40 pounds. My size suffered. She dumped me over money and then made fun of me, saying my penis was always shriveled up and small.

I spent years suffering from that-it haunted me. I even believed it for a while.

I then reconnected with a girl I knew in high school. We had a short relationship. She was a nympho-had no interest in romance or tenderness at all, which was surprising since she was so nice in school. Anyway... THis woman did not even like to be given oral sex! It was strictly down to "business" every time (it got boring quick).

She said her ex husband was quite large, but she could never get an orgasm-she used to supposedly have a few beers before they had sex. At least that's what she claimed.

However, she said I was a perfect size and that the main thing was that I KNEW how to use it. Obviously women can fake it to a degree, but some signs are not "fakeable", including when copious amounts of fluid are released. Suffice it to say that her reactions and comments during our "together time" hurt the ears. Regardless of whether she lied about her husband or not, this woman was more than satisfied.

A year ago I lost my mother and another job. I slipped into depression - bad. Size suffered again, and I could hardly get an erection. My penis was generally shriveled when flaccid. I had a woman neighbor who showed interest. I was really afraid and suffering from BAD self esteem but I invited her over. At first I couldn't do it-and she was really nice and stuck around. Eventually my ability returned, and things worked quite well.

I have a friend who literally has a 10 inch plus penis, and he has complained a lot about not being able to get "laid". He has gone to prostitutes even, and been turned down. Yes, there are women who like that, but who cares? HE has found maybe two or three in the years I've known him.

Anyway, in short (after this overlong post) the important thing is to build confidence-get in shape, work out, take care of yourself, dress well-build your confidence-this will all make a difference. I'm coming out of a really bad time-I was recently diagnosed bipolar 2 and am on medication. But I feel a LOT better, and my size and stamina have returned-it's all about frame of mind I believe.

It's also about self respect and placing the importance on things that matter-like people's worth and dignity as human beings. Yes, we can all meet a woman who thinks we are too small or too big, just like they may think someone's feet are too ugly or their nose to long or some other superficial crap.


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Old 11-27-2010, 01:28 AM   #2
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Re: The big penis debate

You've got all your thoughts in the right place for sure. Be wary though. In the sexual arena, as you already know, there are tons of women and men that think nothing other than size. We all know size is an issue, as you have described, when you get down to the heart of matters it's really not.

The issue you described with your penis sounds quite normal to me. True some are larger than others but I believe most men's penises will shrivel greatly when scared, nervous or extremely cold.

-h

Last edited by Mod-S4; 11-27-2010 at 11:36 PM. Reason: Reference to deleted text removed. Thanks.

 
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