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Old 01-29-2012, 01:55 PM   #1
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non sexual release after arousal

I will start out by stating that I am pretty easily aroused, by touch in particular with my girlfriend. In itself it isn't a problem, but I have discovered that prolonged arousal (such as holding hands through a movie) without release causes notable pain in the groin area, especially in the area of my hernia repaired a few years ago. I know now that this is normal.

So my question is, is there something I can do to get release or pain relief in a non sexual way? Being religious, this puts me in an awkward position, as sexual release requires further mental and/or physical stimulation. Sex is out of the question, and I couldn't in good conscience ask her to assist. We have vowed to keep that part of the relationship until Marriage (should we get there).

Is there a pain killer or blood thinner that might help? Or some technique (don't need to describe it here, I can look it up on my own)? I thought maybe an aspirin as that is something of a blood thinner, which might help the blood concentrating in the area, but that wouldn't help the other part of the equation that causes pain.

Any help would be appreciated!

 
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Re: non sexual release after arousal

sorry I can't think of anything to help. have you taalked to your doctor? you should not have to go thru that pain just so you can hold hands...
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Old 02-01-2012, 04:18 PM   #3
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sorry I can't think of anything to help. have you taalked to your doctor? you should not have to go thru that pain just so you can hold hands...
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Thanks, I have thought about seeing my doctor. It seems to be less and less intense the more interaction I have with her... so perhaps my body just needed time to adjust...its been a long time since I have had this kind of contact with a female.

Time will tell

 
Old 02-03-2012, 09:29 AM   #4
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Re: non sexual release after arousal

Well I have noticed lately I no longer have any pain on the right side, but still experience some pain where the hernia was. Hopefully that will subside too.

Thanks for replying keil.

 
Old 02-03-2012, 01:03 PM   #5
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Re: non sexual release after arousal

You're a normal young man with desires and needs. It's normal not to remain uninfluenced by your girlfriend's presence if you really like her. I don't see other solution than releasing the pressure before you guys see each other.
And please, don't take Aspirin just because you're horny. Everyone knows Aspirin has serious side effects in the long run.

 
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You're a normal young man with desires and needs. It's normal not to remain uninfluenced by your girlfriend's presence if you really like her. I don't see other solution than releasing the pressure before you guys see each other.
And please, don't take Aspirin just because you're horny. Everyone knows Aspirin has serious side effects in the long run.
Thanks. I wasn't going to take aspirin, I was using it more of an example of my train of thought at the time. As I mentioned in my last post, it isn't an issue anymore except for where I had the hernia, but even that seems to be improving over time.

My whole point was to see if there was any ideas for release in a non sexual way, but have yet to find one. But as its improving just by spending more time with her. I guess my body is getting used to the normal interactions and reactions.

Thanks for the input!

 
Old 03-30-2012, 11:39 AM   #7
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Re: non sexual release after arousal

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I will start out by stating that I am pretty easily aroused, by touch in particular with my girlfriend. In itself it isn't a problem, but I have discovered that prolonged arousal (such as holding hands through a movie) without release causes notable pain in the groin area, especially in the area of my hernia repaired a few years ago. I know now that this is normal.

So my question is, is there something I can do to get release or pain relief in a non sexual way? Being religious, this puts me in an awkward position, as sexual release requires further mental and/or physical stimulation. Sex is out of the question, and I couldn't in good conscience ask her to assist. We have vowed to keep that part of the relationship until Marriage (should we get there).

Is there a pain killer or blood thinner that might help? Or some technique (don't need to describe it here, I can look it up on my own)? I thought maybe an aspirin as that is something of a blood thinner, which might help the blood concentrating in the area, but that wouldn't help the other part of the equation that causes pain.

Any help would be appreciated!
Hi. Well, I respect your religious beliefs first of all. I am glad to hear that this issue seems to be lessening over time. My thoughts are that perhaps masturbating to orgasm and ejaculation prior to a date and/or after a date with your girlfriend. Also....if you keep on having issues with pain in your hernia repair area, ask your doctor if that is normal. Perhaps he would be able to better address it? Good luck and let us know how it turns out.

 
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