Normal testosterone, still can't get erections
Been having trouble getting hard for maybe 8 months to a year. Just saw my doctor who did a bloodtest for low T, and my levels are "normal".
A little background;
I'm a 56 year old man, a few extra pounds but working on it (5'11", 205 lbs).
My partner lost her sex drive a few years back, and I got tired of masturbating. Rather than come to bed and bother her, I tried to not get aroused so much. We maybe had sex twice a year. I could still get erect when I masturbated though.
I was diagnosed with Type 2 two years ago, put on Glipizide. Could still get erections masturbating.
Lost my job a year and a half ago, collecting unemployment while going to college fulltime. I'm a people person, so feeling a bit isolated compared to the contact I used to have and enjoy. My partner was the one who suggested I go to school, so she's supportive to a point, but has let me know that she has underlying issues none the less. Through all this, I could still pretty much get an erection.
Maybe the end of last summer/early fall, I guess I sarted to notice a lack of an erection. When I woke up in the morning, when I laid down naked next to my partner at night, even when I did masturbate. I could still climax, but never fully hard.
Now my partner has finally decided to do something about her poor sex drive, and it's having a positive effect. The only problem is that I simply cannot get hard enough to penetrate her, no matter what. Whether she's touching me, performing oral sex on me, watching naughty movies together, talking naughty to me (used to get me so hard!)........ nothing works.
I can still climax (usually have to masturbate to get there, even with her) though it takes a little longer. I still "feel" hard in my mind, I still have the "urge". I have interest to some degree, it's not like I don't desire sex.
Saw my doctor last week, and he found my testosterone levels "normal". He'll put me on ED pills, but that doesn't address the real cause. I should be able to get hard.
My own research suggets that it could be stress, depression (I do battle that from time to time lately, though I'm not taking anything for it) or this repressed sex drive.
But then I read that even so, I should be waking up with an erection that I just don't have.
I wish I had the money to see an endocrinologist or urologist, but I'm out of work. No insurance, minimal income. Does anyone have any experience or suggestions to help? Thanks.