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De Lou · 10-19-2002, 11:36 PM

This may have already been asked before. I have not seen it. I am wondering why men like to look at playboy besides the all to common answer"The articles" becuase just about the same articales are in Cosmo. I know it has something to do with the fact that are no strings attatch. And men say womens bodys are to be looked at as beauty. Well here is my point. I feel hurt when I find out my husband looks at this stuff. I feel as if then I am not good enough to look at but only good enough to give him some when he wants it. He is not into porn. I have told him I am willing to dress like these(are they ladies?) people, I am will to have a boob job.(I am a 36 c 4 kids though) I am by far overweight. I keep myself up. I never look like a slob when he gets home. I fix myself up just before he walks in. I have never put any pressures on him like some wives do as to what he needs to get done around here. I treat him pretty good. And I never once turned him down for sex. So ok maybe it may not be a sex thing. I do not yell at him for looking at this stuff. I have however recently told him it hurt me deeply becuase I want to be everything he wants me to be. I even said I would be his sex slave I will do what ever it is he wants me to do to him. And he may do the same for me. I just felt so unwanted when I found out he was looking at this stuff again. Then he says at least hes not out cheating on me.Hes right there but it does not stop the hurt. I know most are saying get over it lady hes there with you not out on the streets with some Jane. But this is who I am and how I feel. If you are going to say anything mean please do not reply! Please do not be harsh with me. Right now I could not take it.(Paulb please)Just what could I do.
DD

berto · 10-19-2002, 11:41 PM

Men look @ the mags because...they are men.
Tis our way. It has nothing to do with the way you look or don't look when you man comes home from work.
A man could be married to the most beautiful, buxom woman on Earth... yet still have the urge to look @ other women and look @ mags - It is the way of man.
Enjoy your man - he is normal as can be - I promise.

[This message has been edited by berto (edited 10-20-2002).]

De Lou · 10-19-2002, 11:52 PM

Ok I believe he is normal. Maybe I am the one with the problem & should go see a shrink or something. Maybe it has to to with my sign being Leo and having to center of attention 100% of the time. So with that said maybe I will just go into bed now and snuggle with him knowing he is here and not out there and not on here checking out porn.
DD

berto · 10-20-2002, 01:01 AM

no !!! you don't need to see a shrink.
I am sure you feelings are what most women would feel.
Sorry I can't explain the urge men have to do that which they do - they just do.
Worry not young lady - enjoy that love life and make the most out of each & every encounter.

dsheldon3 · 10-20-2002, 03:23 PM

When the both of you are out together make SURE you stare at every guy you see that you find attractive .And if he says anything just say ,"Well, I'm only looking ,like you do with your playboy magazines.At least the guys I look at have their clothes on." Keep doing this until it drives him crazy and he stops looking at the magazines.