Can not climax! - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

RDNK063 · 01-08-2003, 10:27 PM

hey, I'm 19 and I'm a guy and have been suffering from anorgasmia my whole life (well, since puberty). I know it's a mental block I have because I have had wet dreams before, but have never climaxed other than those. I am not on any anti-deppressants. I have been completely avoiding girls and sex lately because I am so embarassed of this problem. I am attracted to girls and can maintain a hard on for extended periods of time, but just can't climax. I was wondering if anybody can relate to this problem and if they have recovered from it ( any tips on how to get over this would be greatly appreciated!)

SIK IN DA HED · 01-09-2003, 01:57 AM

whoa... are you serious? have u watched porns? maybe you should watch one with yor next partner if it turns you on.

Mojojojo · 01-09-2003, 10:19 AM

Im no saying it would work but, i seem to have problems getting to climax too unless i tighten my legs up. I dunno i seem wierd, and im kinda embarrassed by the way i have to do it but it gets the job done. But doing it during intercourse is gonna be a whole nother story for me , i dont think that would be a very sexy look for me.

Tman77 · 01-12-2003, 11:09 PM

This happened / happens to me sometimes, and you know what, the tough part is that it's probably all in your mind. And it's only trickier because now you're so focused on it. I've been dating a guy for a couple of months now (I'm bi), and the first few times we fooled around and/or had sex, I wouldn't orgasm at all. But then I just got more comfortable around him, and neither of us really worried about it, and finally it happened. Now I orgasm sometimes, and sometimes I don't. (And it's the same with him.) I know that's not a great answer, that it's probably just because you're super nervous, but I guess the best advice is that you just shouldn't be concerned if you're with someone and you can't orgasm. Better that than if you orgasm 45 seconds into it, right? Eventually you'll loosen up and it'll happen!