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rock'n'roll · 01-25-2003, 12:19 AM

so me and my girl tried anal sex, i got the head of my penis in and she said it hurt too much, now i know your supposed to.......work your way up.....but how do i know just when we've worked up enough? and how do i go from working one finger to two (i figure two is about the width of a penis so...)?

diami03 · 01-29-2003, 03:53 PM

I can tell you this, when I have anal sex with no problems it is when I am EXTREMELY turned on. Also it took a while before we figured out the position we were in for initial penetration made a BIG difference. After it was "in" then we would change positions. I would also suggest to get things going, get an anal plug. This will get her used to the "full" sensation right before you enter her.

devastated · 01-30-2003, 06:59 AM

I agree, I LOVE anal, but only when I'm turned on. Did you "prep" her before trying to penetrate with your penis? When my b/f and I do it, we usually have regular sex for a little bit, or oral, while he also fingers me "down there" to get me ready for the actual sex. We have tried it without doing that, but then it hurts me. Also, make sure you use LOTS of lube at first. I don't really need him to slather it on any more, but it really helped alot when I was just getting used to it to use alot of it. Also, I think her mental state has alot to do with it too, when we first started with it, I would be nervous about it and I think that in turn made me tense up and made it hurt. Make sure she really does want it before you try. Also, I'm not saying for her to get drunk, by any means, but I found that just a drink or two would loosen my inhibitions a bit and made me more relaxed. Good luck...I never thought I would like it as much as I do now!