Just CANT CUM?? Help! - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

Artiztick · 01-24-2003, 07:45 PM

Hey guys!

Im 17 and have just started to have sex! ANYWAY i am finding that it takes around 45/60mins for me to ejaculate! Sometimes i dont ejaculate at all! Its VERY frustrating becuase i can only seem to ejaculate when i masturbate with my g/f watching, We do have sex and she gives oral but i dont get anything fom it, its like my penis loses sensation!?

I can ejaculate in 5-10mins when masturbateing on my own if i wanted to!

Whats the problem? I am turnd on enough (we do lots of foreplay) PLEASE can anyone help? HAs anyone else had the same problem?

Get back to me as soon as you can please

thankyou

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Weaver · 01-24-2003, 08:18 PM

You are working too hard at having a good time. Just calm down, relax and enjoy being with your girlfriend. Remember this is not a competition but a chance to let her know how much you care for her.

When you relax a little, you will be fine and you will ***.

Have a good time,enjoy.

Blastoff9600 · 01-24-2003, 09:14 PM

Another thing if you masturbate alot then your penis could easily be use to that form of stimulation. Try holding off on masturbating for a few days to see if that helps.

Also changing the way you masturbate could help.

volty · 01-24-2003, 09:49 PM

Yeah. Same thing with me, kinda. You just need to learn which positions give you the most feedback, man. Its not a bad thing, for sure. Going the distance can be good.

I can assume that you're using a condom. Which is part of it too. Try a different one, maybe. Lubricant was the big thing too. We had been doing stuff without it, and the first time we used it, it helped me get off a lot.

foosh · 01-31-2003, 04:40 PM

Calm down, and relax. Also, don't squeeze too hard when you masturbate. This will desensitize you to a smooth, soft vagina that cannot provide that level of friction that you may be getting used to. Try laying of the masturbation for a few weeks (yes a few weeks), relaxing and not thinking about ejaculating with your girlfriend, and just enjoying yourself.