Husband with low sex drive??? - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

maddy · 01-24-2003, 11:17 PM

Hi,

What causes a man to have a low sex drive? My husband (33) has had this problem for several years now.
He is a very sweet man, and very attractive physically....he just doesn't seem concerned with sex. He doesn't tell me 'no' when I want to have sex, but he never has the desire to initiate it himself. This is starting to get to me because I could have sex once a day, if not more, I am VERY attracted to him... I'm starting to wonder if he has some sort of hormonal imbalance. He urinates frequently, and is often tired. Any info would be appreciated!!

Maddy

Roger100 · 01-25-2003, 01:52 AM

It could be the hormones. It could be testosterone, prolactin or oestrogen. But is could also be daily stress or anxiety related to sex or maybe there is a problem in the relationship.

I would like to know more facts. Since when has he had this problem? How often do you have sex with him per week and does he always get hard?
Describe him physically, is he overweight ?

Autumn Angel · 01-25-2003, 10:46 AM

It might be hormones forsure because I am the same way I dont care if I have sex or not. I love the closeness and the affection but as for the actual act it doesnt matter to me anymore. I thought I was crazy for awhile but there is alot of others out there that way too and it doesnt mean we dont love who we are with either.

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paulb · 01-25-2003, 07:35 PM

So we have a man with the psychological make-up of the typical woman, and vice versa. How ironic!

(You did not mention whether you have children. A hormone assay is most certainly in order, looking specifically for hyperprolactinaemia, that is; too much of that hormone. It is treatable.

A possibly unfortunate side-effect of Testosterone replacement if that is on the other hand, deficient, is infertility.)

maddy · 01-26-2003, 11:38 AM

Thanks for the replies....He is slightly overweight, and yes we do have children (six total from previous marriages *smile)....He is a very calm person, so I don't think it is stress. We have sex about three times a week...He just doesn't seem interested. He was a little worried about his lack of interest. He was also worried about his excessive urination. He has also been losing more hair recently....I thought it might be his thyroid???

Maddy