how did u guys get over this? - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

inquisitor · 04-08-2003, 07:46 AM

hi,

this ones for the guys.

to those who had felt that they were inadequate in that department, how long and what did u do to get over your insecurities? did u guys just wake up one day and accepted such or an event or situation led u to u accepting your status? i don't know how to get over this insecurity of mine. i know it does not come over night, and it may take years to get over this. but i just wanted some advice and personal insight on this.

y'know this insecurity of mine has prevented me from experiencing the joys of life. and i want to evolve myself from that. so im asking for help. any advice, but please, not to be rude, i don't need the just-be-happy-with-what-u-have speech, i've heard it already, what i need is personal accounts of what did u do to get over this and how long did it take. please don't take offense to what i wrote above, but its always easier for another not experiencing the emotion to say get over it or accept it. and its not easier to just drop the issue and accept it. its easier said than done. so please can anybody help?

thanks

INQ

crayola110 · 04-08-2003, 11:27 AM

Get over what? Status? In adequate how? Are you talking about your penis size, performance in bed, vagina or what?

inquisitor · 04-09-2003, 08:51 AM

yeah, i'm talking about penis size

inq

Lance2 · 04-10-2003, 06:19 AM

Hey bud, for years I was right where you are and felt the same way. I don't have time right now to explain "how" I got over it, but I'll get back with you. Let me start by saying, its your penis, it is what it is and there really isn't anything you can do about it. Accept yourself and your equipment, focus on who you are as a man and what you can offer someone in a relationship...and your penis won't matter at all. Long as it works and you use it well, she won't care at all....she won't fall in love with your penis, she falls in love with YOU!

inquisitor · 04-10-2003, 07:06 AM

lance2, thanks for replying and im looking forward to your update. but i did another look at myself. from what i can see its a bad case of low self-esteem and confidence. i know no one will feel or see the way i see things, but i do welcome any insight.

the thing is its not only penis size that disturbs me (althought its a running constant thought in my head) its also other things, like im a short guy (5'3"), not in the best of shape, appearance wise i feel that im lacking (i know there are some people *uglier* than me hehe), and many others. i know im a nice guy, a great friend, etc., but it seems that all the time that others are more into the physical than whats inside. and now i trully feel that when people say 'its now who you look its whats inside that matters' is total bull. i've always been told that im perfect; the perfect friend or best friend, the best husband since i know how to take care of the house and etc, im the perfect this and perfect that. I'M NEVER THE PERFECT GUY!!! you know what i mean?! i feel like i'm always relegated as the perfect something but not the perfect one. 'like always a bridesmaaid never the bride.' so right now i feel so depressed and confused and other emotions running throught my head. and before i forget, Sorry if i sound more like im griping than actually asking some advice.

but anyways, thanks for the advice whoever can give em.

inq