Trouble with intercourse - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

mojo63 · 04-11-2003, 09:26 AM

WE have a problem the I hope everyone can help with. When with my wife I can no longer seem to achieve orgasm through intercourse and it takes forever during a handjob or oral.If I am by myself it is fine. Intercourse can take anywhere from 30-60 minutes and I still don't get there.It was not always this way but seems to be getting worse and worse. Any help would be appreciated as we are now no longer having sex.Thanks for all your help

coaned · 04-11-2003, 09:48 AM

Do you masterbate a lot?

mojo63 · 04-11-2003, 10:12 AM

Not really, I only do when there are long periods of no sex. At the most maybe twice a week. I don't think that has much to do with it though as we have tried stopping everything for a week or two and it made no difference. Thanks for you reply

coaned · 04-11-2003, 11:41 AM

At this point you are probably making all worse for yourself. Since you worry about it, you probably tend to concentrate on getting off more than you used to. That, from experience I have had with my bf, makes it a lot harder to enjoy yourself.

Come up with a few things that your wife may be able to do to get you going, and tell her about them. I suggest that you pick a night to spend with your wife, and do the wild things that you both have come up with. Maybe get her something skimpy to wear. Have lots of foreplay to get you really excited, and see if that works.

I think that it is most probably psychological. Maybe one night it wasn't happening for you, and ever since then you have worked yourself up over it making it all the worse. Try and relax and enjoy yourself.

mojo63 · 04-11-2003, 12:23 PM

Hey Coaned,

Thanks for the advice. The only problem with all of that is that I have a wife who will not do anything other than the basic plain normal stuff. She does not like having sex and does not hide this fact. It is always her way or no way, for instance always with the lights out and as fast as possible.all of the yawning doesn't help either. She will not play games, wear sexy clothes or try new things. So what do I do now?