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Old 07-11-2012, 08:33 AM   #1
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Exclamation Hyperactive Sex Drive is ruining me

I am seriously considering at this point either an orchidectomy or a vasectomy and starting work as a sex worker after breaking off my engagement purely as consequence of my sex drive.

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At this point, masturbation is ineffective, even with a toy (e.g. Fleshlight). I need a living, breathing female or my sex drive isn't sated, even after I ejaculate. The flood of desire just comes right back in a minute or less.

I have trouble with sexual satisfaction with my fiancee as she started a new job and now only has sex with me once or twice a week. I need it (not want, NEED.) at least 18 times per week if not 26 to 30.

I am able to avoid sexual thoughts and feelings but the biochemistry that reddens my face for 6-10 hours per day associated with "burning with desire" stutters my words, deflects my keystrokes while typing, robs my mind of its optimal processing speed for college and otherwise is a major pain in the neck. The resultant anger from sexual frustration is unacceptable in our family environment and must be dealt with.

Abstinence makes it worse, as it comes in waves and builds over time. Eventually, the waves get so strong I go temporarily insane with lust and blank out for a few hours while it drives my body. Cleanup isn't as hard as it used to be.


Addendum: I prefer that educated, informed posts be made as answers to this so that those in the future who desperately need guidance without becoming poly-amorous can find what they are looking for.

Last edited by MetalBeans; 07-25-2012 at 09:16 PM. Reason: A decision was made without my consent, because of this sex drive overwhelming me.

 
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Old 07-11-2012, 09:06 AM   #2
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Re: Hyperactive Sex Drive is ruining me

Have you considered talking with your doctor or a therapist?

 
Old 07-11-2012, 05:40 PM   #3
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Re: Hyperactive Sex Drive is ruining me

Yell at your penis out loud.

 
Old 07-25-2012, 09:09 PM   #4
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Re: Hyperactive Sex Drive is ruining me

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Have you considered talking with your doctor or a therapist?
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Originally Posted by VeganRAw View Post
Yell at your penis out loud.
Both of these work equally well, which is not at all.

I've recently had a major shift in life and am starting to have trouble keeping up with about 4-6 hours of sex per day (EVERY day). It's ok... I'm just out of shape physically. I'll be fine in a few weeks.

I really NEEDED an answer within a few days after posting... nothing. Now, I have to live with what happened.

Now if I can just find enough $ to afford a vasectomy, things would rock...

Last edited by MetalBeans; 07-25-2012 at 09:13 PM.

 
Old 07-25-2012, 09:41 PM   #5
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Re: Hyperactive Sex Drive is ruining me

A vasectomy will have zero effect on your sex drive.

You could try SSRIs. They are known to reduce libido. You'll need to speak to a doctor about it though, since they require a prescription.

 
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Re: Hyperactive Sex Drive is ruining me

MetalBeans,

Your extreme need for sexual satisfaction is definitely getting in the way of you daily life, and you do need some professional help to deal with this. As you have learned, every avenue you have checked out has been ineffective, leaving you more and more frustrated and concerned.

While I am not a professional in the field, I am someone who has sought medical care for a wide variety of medical needs, and I feel quite confident that your answer is out there somewhere. YOu need to attack it with the attituce that you may not find your answers in the first place you look, but you will find it eventually.

While the idea of becoming a worker in the sex industry sounds promising, I would be very careful before actually doing such a thing. While the physical demands would seem to be the perfect answer to all your problems, it comes with so many hidden dangers and downfalls, that they must be carefully considered before just jumping in.

My advice would be to take this to a good doctor who will sit down and go over all your options with you, and help you mke a good decision. He/she would then do a complete physical, do blood work to check for hormone levels, any imbalances, disorders and anything that would cause such a hyperactive drive. Certainly there are other men who have gone through this same thing, and their experience could be helpful to you. With all the new medications available to you, certainly someone could provide you with some relief.

I certainly hope this gives you a bit of hope and you can find the answers you are looking for!

Janet

 
Old 07-26-2012, 06:40 PM   #7
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Re: Hyperactive Sex Drive is ruining me

If a career in porn is out of the question (They really love rapid shooters), you could opt for the other end of the spectrum and ask your doctor for chemical castration. Some sex offenders are subjected to it as punishment, but you can also use it willingly. Basically, it'll kill your sex drive - but you should be able to get off the medication later if you want to have kids.

A vasectomy does not help, because it only cuts the fluid duct between your testicles and penis.

 
Old 08-07-2012, 12:50 PM   #8
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Re: Hyperactive Sex Drive is ruining me

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If a career in porn is out of the question (They really love rapid shooters), you could opt for the other end of the spectrum and ask your doctor for chemical castration. Some sex offenders are subjected to it as punishment, but you can also use it willingly. Basically, it'll kill your sex drive - but you should be able to get off the medication later if you want to have kids.

A vasectomy does not help, because it only cuts the fluid duct between your testicles and penis.
Given what happened and the commitment(s) it generated, a vasectomy is perfect.

As for seeking professional help, if the drive itself cannot be directly dealt with then once my ladies decide whether or not to move on I'll be facing the dilemma again. I do not like being promiscuous, it messes with my head and my heart. Still, so long as they are ok with each other, multiple partners seems to be the answer.

I really like Janet's post, as it directly handles the problems at their root with the best information she has at her disposal despite not being a professional who deals with this specific thing. I hope to see more on this level.

Right now, extreme distress over finances and managing several fragile situations is enough to kill my libido and wear my body out to a point of exhaustion. None of this is a result of the consequences of my libido taking over in a situation I had hoped to avoid. In fact, even were I to take chemical castration to kill the urges, I would still be so busy I can't even think straight. It's like people in my small world just like to not handle their own business and get into business that isn't theirs... I really can't get any peace from these folks.




Summation: Since we dealt with the issue in nearly every venue possible and all options were addressed, this topic is closed. Any further posts are unnecessary unless they are from a licensed sex industry professional or professional in the medical field that deals with sex drives.

Last edited by MetalBeans; 08-07-2012 at 12:53 PM.

 
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