Strip Clubs - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

coaned · 03-26-2003, 08:44 AM

My bf insists that he is not into strip clubs, and that he has never been to one. I definitely believe that he has never been to one, but doubt that he wouldn't go if his friends were going. Are there any men out there that really aren't into them?

I am fine with him looking at porn, but I am not into the idea of him going to a strip club. I have been to one before, a long time ago with a few friends, and would not be to happy knowing that my bf went to one and got a lap dance, let alone just watching them and giving them money to prance around naked! To me that is so much different than porn.

SkipperK · 03-26-2003, 10:57 AM

Hi,
I have worked for a "strip club" before doing odd jobs. I am male. After working in one and being in the biz for a while I can tell you its not as bad as it seems. A strip club to most men is no different then watching porn on TV or the NET. Its a place where they can go and be visually stimulated. Its really not a form of cheating or anything its more of a bar with visual sex. Most men are not there to cheat on there wives or pretend their wife was like the girls. They know that its just fantasy and that is all the club provides.

missychacha · 03-26-2003, 01:53 PM

I'm sooooo sick of this blanket, all-encompasing statement: "men are visual creatures", in answer to their interest in porn/strip clubs etc. I think it's poop. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif

I am a woman. **I** am a visual creature and **I** love the nude male body as much as anyone could love a nude body. I like looking, it stimulates me. I then feel like having sex. It is merely one of the many ways that I get turned on, personally. I do not think I am the exception to all women.

I think that this is NOT an excuse for cheating or fantasizing about cheating, or getting aroused by someone other than my partner.

I think the **real** question should be: Is becoming aroused by someone other than your partner a problem for your relationship?

Just one woman's opinion.

DanaJ · 03-26-2003, 03:38 PM

Well all I can say is my man wouldn't be caught dead in them. He doesn't like them, and his friends know better than to ask him to go to one. Anyway, he is far from interested in that. He has me anyway,and he says he's happy.

hairjewels · 04-10-2003, 10:00 AM

YEAH!!! TO MISSYCHAHA. I AGREE WITH YOU. I AM ALSO SICK OF HEARING ABOUT HOW MEN ARE VISUALLY STIMULATED. I AM ALSO VISUALLY STIMULATED. THIS IS KNOW EXCUSE FOR THEM TO GO OR WATCH PORN. I ALSO DO NOT AGREE WITH THERAPIST SAYING "HAVE AT IT. IT ENHANCES YOU SEX LIFE." BULL, WE DO JUST FINE IN THINKING UP OUR OWN FANTASIES. I DO NOT APPRECIATE MY HUSBAND GETTING TURNED ON BY OTHER WOMEN. IF HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH GETTING AROUSED BY ME, AND HE NEEDS TO WATCH PORN OR GO TO STRIP CLUBS TO ENHANCE OUR SEX LIFE, THAN HE CAN FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO DO THIS WITH. IF I CAN'T AROUSE HIM THEN WE HAVE A PROBLEM. I AM LUCKY THAT MY HUSBAND HAS NEVER BEEN TO A STRIP CLUB AND CLAIMS HE HAS NOT INTEREST. HE SAYS IT JUST IS NOT RIGHT. HE ALSO SWEARS HE DOES NOT MASTURBATE. I AM NOT SURE IF I BELIEVE THIS. I CANNOT FIND ANYTHING TO BACK HIM UP. HE AND I HAVE A GREAT SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP, GETTING BETTER ALL THE TIME.

{please do not post in all caps as on the internet that implies a form of shouting...unless you have a limitation that prevents you from typing in lower letters, thanks, bfl}

[This message has been edited by bfl (edited 04-10-2003).]