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Old 07-13-2012, 08:11 PM   #1
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Unhappy 21 year old Male No sex drive.

Hi, I'm 21 years old, A male, and no sex drive.
I have had this issue for almost a year now. And it has been bothering me and my fiance for a while now. She has asked me several times if I still find her sexually attractive, and I do, but I just can't get sexually intimate.
I'm not having an affair, I'm not homosexual, I'm not watching porn, nor am I masturbating. I just simply have no sexual "desire".

When I was younger (not even by much) I was, what allot of people would call "A manwhore". I was constantly with different women, and often didn't even know their names. I got around.

When me and my fiance first met, I was constantly "in the mood", but not lately. I can go months without sexual intercourse.

I have considered that it may be stress. I lost my job a while back and ended up losing our apartment (me and my fiance's) and was forced to move in with her Dad. We have been here for about 3 months now and I still have not found a job, there is hardly any food in the house, and everyone is constantly arguing. I feel like I am not wanted at all here.

Please I am in desperate need of advice and/or help.

 
Old 07-15-2012, 06:43 AM   #2
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Re: 21 year old Male No sex drive.

You say that you have "no sex drive" but I don't think your problem is sexual. Losing your job and your apartment are stressful enough, but you are also now living with your fiance's father and your economic situation is strained. I can understand how difficult it must be to have a sexual relationship with your fiance in those circumstances.

The arguments, the scarcity of food and the lack of privacy are affecting all three of you. You already know that you and your fiance need to find a place of your own as soon as possible. Only then will you be able to rebuild your relationship. Only then will your sexual confidence return.

Try to talk about this with your fiance and her father. Open communication with others is better than suffering alone. When arguments happen, people always hide their own guilt by blaming others. Arguments only perpetuate and worsen a bad situation. You are all undergoing a difficult time, so you all need to step back and consider.

Your sexual difficulties will not last. You will be back to normal when your financial circumstances improve. Look forward to that.
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Old 07-16-2012, 12:02 PM   #3
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Re: 21 year old Male No sex drive.

Thanks for your reply. But the only issue is that, when me and my fiance did have our own place, I still wasn't very sexually active. But before that (when we lived separately) I was always wanting to have sex. I feel as though I am simply just no longer interested in having sex.

 
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Re: 21 year old Male No sex drive.

Thanks for your reply. In your original post, you say that you are "in desperate need of advice and/or help". I think you should consider seeking professional advice. Your first step should be to talk to a doctor who can then refer you on for tests, etc.
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