My guy has a erection problem - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

heavenly36 · 06-13-2003, 04:13 PM

I've been dating a man off and on for 5 1/2 months. Everytime, we've attempted to have sex. He can't maintain an erection. During foreplay, he's up and down. When it's time for penetration he goes limp. I like him a lot. We've found other ways to satisfy each other. Orally and manually. I'm 33 yrs old and he's 48. He has a very stressful job. I've tried giving him oral which brings him up only to go down immediately, this is stressful for me. I want to share that closeness with him. I haven't said anything negative to him feel about his performance. I've always told him it's okay, I care about him and just being close to him makes me happy.
I think this is causing problems in our relationship. He becoming distant and pulls away.

I'm not a guy, so I'm not sure how he feels about this problem. Could he be embarrassed? is this something that really bothers a man? What should I do?

YouNeverKnow · 06-13-2003, 11:00 PM

You bet it bothers him and it's time to go see the doctor and get him checked out. Testosterone levels, blood sugar, and thyroid are a good start. If those are OK then he can try Viagra.

DanaJ · 06-14-2003, 12:10 AM

Well do you know if he has had this problem in the past? That could lead to some answers.
Even so, the stress has a lot to do with it,more than likely.
I'd rcommmend going to see a doctor(maybe together) and find out if there are other underlying problems.

Yes, this can really really upset men in many ways. Be supportive, adn work together in finding answers and making your relationship better