how can this work? - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

foureyes · 06-15-2003, 06:09 PM

hi guys,

i don't know whether this has been posted and discussed before. i hate to admit it but i have a 4 inch penis and rather on the skinnier side (condoms are kinda loose, and im 20 years old, so growing up is not a possibility). my size has greatly put a hamper on my social/sex life. Im a virgin, and because of the sixe issue i stayed away from relationships and sex. my issue is how can i effectively have sex? well i know i can but i want to have sex like pros, i want to do the positions, but my size really hinders that. can it be? can i have 'exciting' sex, i just don't want to be stuck to the old missionary position.

do u guys get my drift? any help or direction is great.

foureyes

MrNice · 06-15-2003, 06:29 PM

Why wouldn't you be able to enjoy sex in any position you choose? The size of a man's penis isn't important. What's important is that you learn how to pleasure your partner. Many women, in fact, would prefer a somewhat smaller penis than a large one. There are women who find a large (length or circumference) penis uncomfortable.

As for condoms...there are a variety of brands which offer a snug fit and are advertised as such. Those should fit you much better. Also, several of the brands made in Asia tend to be somewhat tighter fitting. Try some of those and see if they help.

Most of all don't fret your size. Penis' as do breasts, come is a variety of sizes and different people have preferences for different sizes. You'll find partners who will love not having to be concerned about having a partner with whom intercourse could prove painful.

Magnetic · 06-15-2003, 06:57 PM

Missionary, cowboy (girl on top) and doggie can all work well for those who are less endowed. A few positions will be difficult (i.e. spoon, pehaps), but most couples rely on these three for 99% of their lovemaking anyway.

And don't let a small penis stop you from asking girls out. There a plenty of women who will accept what you have, especially if you really know how to be a good lover.

Snazzy101 · 06-15-2003, 08:47 PM

There's really no reason to shy away from sexual relationships. The size of your penis is what it is. You just have to accept it and go on with your life. And if you choose partners who care about YOU, it won't be an issue. Do you imagine a real woman would say, "Oh, I'm sorry, we can't date, as I require a 7 inch penis."?

Why would you say your size hinders positions? Since you're a virgin, I'm just wondering how you know?

Seems to me that unless you're standing a foot away from your partner, most positions would work just fine. I really wish you wouldn't worry about this.

JDinCA · 06-16-2003, 03:59 AM

Your only 20 years old! Apprehension over how you will measure up in the sack is so normal. Because you have not experienced sex, it's only what you imagine it to be from word of mouth, the movies, books, and an infinite subtle and not so subtle messages you are given everyday all day in the course of your daily routine. These notions of what it's suppose to be and what you should have between your legs so your able to deliver the goods isn't real life. The realities are so individual as faces on people. Make the connection with her on an emotional level first. Do you think all women are with the men they are now with because his penis was the best? Hell no! Believe me many women have had much better penises than the one on the men they are currently with. What makes his the better penis, and the one she rather have , is the man attached to it. We men are the ones that refer to our penises as though they are a separate entity from ourselves. Even giving it its own name. Saying things like "Big Ben" needs you even though the guys name is Frank. Like it's another person than just a part of his anatomy. A good woman is not going to be with a man just because he has a porno kings penis. If he is a rotten human being and treats her like she's a second class citizen, constantly disrespecting her, and finds her opinions worthless, his penis isn't going to keep her from dumping him because it's so big and mighty. It will be through your actions that you will be judged. Learn to become a better person and you'll be a better lover. A woman in love with you is the best way to over come any sexual worries about how you fare in the size department. She will be your ally not your enemy. Young heterosexual college age adults are the fastest growing group now to be at risk of contracting the HIV virus, are the most prone to keeping it a secret, and no matter how much they say they wear protection go unprotected more often than gay men of the same age. Because they still believe it isn't such an issue if they are straight and don't use needles to do drugs. People your age are beautiful and young and can go undetected for having the HIV virus for a long time. I have never been a prude when it comes to sexual experimentation but the world is a different place than it was when I was your age . Stop worrying so much about the sex act and if you'll measure up. Instead find the woman that's right for you. Get to know her, fall in love, this doesn't mean get married but that it would be wise to start thinking more on the line that quality which might mean less encounters, is in the bigger picture of things much better than quantity.