Please understand how difficult it can be for a man to hold back an orgasm. Women really can't comprehend how difficult this can be. Everything in the male body is geared to ejaculating, and there is little left to hold it back. While it is frustrating to you for him to stop (which he does to prevent himself from climaxing), it is to him, too.
Men can certainly learn how to gain some control, and some men are better at it that others, yet most men, at times, will be unable to control it when they are super excited.
One techniqe I recommened is for him to alternate between missionary-position intercourse and oral sex. When he is about to reach the point of no return, he pulls out and gives you oral sex for a while, before resuming intercourse. This cycle can be repeated several times. Many women find this very arousing, and it allows the female stiulation to be maintained, but gives him a break and a chance to calm down.
Like was suggested, communicate and let him know what you are feeling. Still, note that if you are close, but he is closer, and you tell him not to stop, he may not be able to hold back. In this case, some women find it stimulating to have the man stay inside them while they bring themselves off manually.
Please, don't blame your lover too much, but feel free to discuss with him this issue and say you want to help him. If you put pressure on him, things will only get worse.
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