I'm a 20 year old male and about last year I realised that my penis was not "normal" - I have phimosis.
I was originally very worried, worried that one day that my penis would fall off or stop working, that I couldn't have sex (I imagined it being too tight and painful) - you know, the usual.
But then I had sex for the first time and it was fine. I have a lot of foreskin. I continued having sex with the same girl, and it was great. I am still having sex with her to this day. She isn't aware that my penis is different, and I haven't told her because she hasn't asked (not that she would make an issue out of it).
The usual common symptom of phimosis is smegma, I have read, but I really don't have a problem with that at all - my girlfriend has never expressed any worry of the sort in the year that we have been engaged in sexual activity.
Having lived with sex and phimosis is odd. On one hand, I read that sex will become more pleasurable with a fully rectractable foreskin - but then I am worried that our sex will become less "good". Our sex can last for hours. Sometimes we just have it quick and it's about 5-10 minutes, but when we're feeling really horny we can have sex for a LONG time! And we really enjoy it, she's absolutely loving it (being a previous believer that girls can't orgasm etc) and so am I. Sex for me feels good - but maybe not as good as I would have expected. I really like the whole physical side of it and our skin touching etc and being really intimate, but the actual orgasm that I have (which I can reach easily) is sometimes not so good as I have experienced with on my own masturbating.
So is that because of phimosis or my penis being used to my hand? Basically I'm worried that if I do the stretching exercises and they are successful then our sex will become a more 10 minute thing all the time if my penis is more sensitive.
Am I being illogical here? Is the risk of infection that great that I should stretch even though our sex might not be as great?
Thanks for any input,