Tickle Fetish? - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

Mother of 3 · 06-21-2003, 09:40 PM

Please give me some advice! My 15 year old son has been visiting porm sites online, as well as downloading mpegs. Every site and movie has the same theme...mild bondage with tickling, and more rarely, things involving feet. I've found evidence of this twice before, and spoke with my son, explaining that I was concerned that he was getting the wrong idea about sex, and that I didn't like the way this type of porn objectified women. We have always had an open and healthy relationship, although he was understandably embarrassed to be talking about this and didn't respond much. Of course he promised not to look for this stuff again, but he has. Frankly, I'd be less worried if he was just out there looking for straight porn with naked women! I'm afraid that he is "locking into" this fetish and it will affect him as he gets older. Basic background..he is a great student, doesn't drink or do drugs, has a beautiful girlfriend who's a bit older, and I'm a single mom, although he does have regular contact with his father. So do I talk to him some more? talk to his doctor? forget it? WHAT?

bradford54 · 06-23-2003, 02:09 PM

Your son sounds normal. Yhe internet is a wonderful place, but it has a dark side and your son has found it.
He is becoming interested in sex, has a gf, and the internet to put ideas in his head.
A tinkling, feet, light bondage fetish or idea is mild consitering all the other porn on the net. It is your job to temper or teach them about sex.
He needs to know that NO means NO, we do not tie-up and rape girls. He needs to know about safe sex, birth control, that means ALWAYS use a condom.
Mom you can use this as a great oppertunity to talk about sex. Your son needs your guidance, your son is going to have sex if not today next week or next year but he will have sex whether you like it or not. now is the time to talk to him and bestow your values on him.
Good luck on a tough talk

arealguyindc · 06-26-2003, 12:00 PM

Well, I agree with Brad about reminding him about condoms, but BIG DEAL that he is looking at ticking on the web. There are PLENTY worse things he could be looking at. Tickling is basically harmless; and when I was 15 this girl and I would get into tickling "fights" for hours on end. It was heavy flirting, if you will; the only way then we could touch each other, since we were way too shy to do anything else.
Remember, tickling is also something that little kids do - I think it is very normal that he would be looking at this as he is in adolescence.