Just wanted to let you know that I am a 29 year old female who used to have the same problem with a former boyfreind...the pain, dryness, etc. I was told by my gyno that I had been bruised rather severely and even my left kidney was bruised. The problem for me was that he was pretty big and very forceful in the beginning. He wasn't mean or anything, just very enthusiastic and had a lot of energy. We found that along with different positions, slowing down helped and he learned to be a little more gentle. Also, KY does wonders too.