some ejaculate too fast? - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

JoshuaGrayton · 08-15-2003, 07:39 PM

Ok, I have a problem that i so badly want to sort out, not only for myself, but for my girlfriend. I am in a long distance relationship, not out of choice, for I wish I was with her always, but things have to be this way for now. Anyway, when i'm apart from her, I often have to resort to self pleasure. Well, I desire her incredibly, and want to make her pleased, but every time i'm with her, and in sexual intercourse, I find myself getting very aroused, and to a near state of ejaculation, but then it dies away, and I cannot do so inside her

trust me on this, it isn't a lack of attraction, or of need, I have no idea what it is, and i'm tired of making excuses as to why I cannot do what every other man seems able to. Please PLEASE someone help me - are there any exercises you can do to be able to ejaculate faster, or feel more sensation? thats another one of my problems, even with masturbation, I get little sensation now... IM ONLY 21! please help! I want to satisfy her, and I want to feel more sensation from me and her, as that is all that's missing from this glorious relationship. thank you for your time of reading my drawled out ramblings!

- Josh

GriffinS09 · 08-16-2003, 01:15 AM

Josh,

Hey buddy, I feel your pain.

I once dated a girl of whome I was very attracted to, but it was near impossable for me to orgasm with her, and I didn't recieve much pleasure via intercource either. I would have to go so long that after a while, I would loose interest in the sex we were having and just give up. Everytime I did orgasm, I would have to work up a sweat that could fill buckets. It's was an annoyance. I always said to myself "Forget this, an orgasm isn't worth THAT much work."

After a while, you just loose concentration. Sex is meant to serve not only an act of love, but also as a stimulant of pleasure. And when you don't recieve pleasure, sex becomes dull. You mind wonders and you just start thinking to yourself "Why am I still doing this?"

Not all vagina's have the same elesticity. Men like women who are 'tight', because it's gives great pleasure. Some women just don't have that, and it effect's your penis. Does this sound like your problem?

To tell you the truth, my sex life with the girl I mentioned above was terrible. She had an orgasm every time. While that made me very happy, I was never satisfied. I used to dread having to have sex because it was like running a marathon. I just didin't feel like putting in every ounce of energy I had just to have an orgasm.

Elastisity

JoshuaGrayton · 08-16-2003, 02:49 AM

that sounds about right, but I REALLY do love her, and want badly to ejacullate inside her whatever it takes... every time we have sex and I don't ejaculate, she always gets upset, and thinks I don't love her...but has stuck with me for coming on 2 years...so are there any exercises, even if there isnt a huge amount of elasticity...to overcome that factor? ... thanks ...

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JoshuaGrayton · 08-16-2003, 02:51 AM

she is the only one in my life, and my true love... i don't want anyone else, and if i feel pleasure, I want it to be from her...

JoshuaGrayton · 08-16-2003, 03:00 AM

oh! some information btw... when I first started masturbating, I got a lot more pleasure, and my member was very very sensitive when I touched the head... now I can touch it easily, without any much sesnation... still a bit, but WAY less than before... and I'm very thin around the waist, like bonily thin...could these also be factors? and if so, anything I can do to allow my member to feel the same sensation as before? I do masturbate at a regular period...like maybe up to 1 time a night