Here comes the confusion. I've also met very feminene and fruity *acting* guys and they seem to never get made fun of, ignored, treated badly, or avoided by straight guys. And I am baffeled beyond belief as to why that other fruity acting guy gets attention and friends but not me. Remember I have never publicly announced to anybody that I am a dude who likes dudes. I am very confused.
As you can see by my name I am a woman. Heres my take on it, but I'm sure you will get better advise from the men on this board.
Perhaps the other fruity acting guys do not hide thier sexual orientation. In other words there "out of the closet". You, by your own admission have never "announced your a dude that likes dudes". But as you know, they know. They just dont know the whole story. When a straight man meets a homosexual and no advances are made, the straight man can let his guard down so to speak. Yes, most men/women have gaydar and when they are not sure of your intentions, they keep a guard up. If its friendship that you are searching for, the best thing for you to do is be honest with the people you meet. After all thats what friendship is all about right? Why try to start a relationship when all your cards arent on the table so to speak? I think that alone will make you more "friendship approachable". Rather than everyone thinking, "there's something up with that guy".
What do some of the straight men think about this?
Good luck and really just try to be yourself....
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