I hope that this is the right place to post this...
I've been in an LDR for over a year now and we started having sex in April. It was the first time for both of us and it was a really amazing experience. We did it a few times when we were together for that trip and it was great
After that things haven't been so great. We went away for a weekend the following month and were hoping to be able to make love all that weekend. The only problem was that I was having a lot of pain which made things difficult, including certain positions I know that he loves (mainly me on top since I'm built pretty small and he's afraid of squishing me!!). We still made love quite a bit that weekend but I wasn't so into it considering the situation. That put a bit of a damper on things but we were determined to make things better next time.
Since then sex has been a struggle and it still hurts. I've been to 2 Dr's now who both seem to think that I have a yeast infection and that this is the cause of the pain. I'm taking Diflucan right now to try and clear it up and have a pap test next week to make sure that everything is ok. My Dr. is also going to do some swabs just to make sure that I have no other infections or anything going on down there.
To top things off, since going on the pill my sex drive hasn't been what it used to be. My boyfriend is incredible and has always been nothing but kind, gentle and patient with me through all of this, but he has also become more and more frustrated with time. He seems to think that our sex life will always be this difficult and painful. I recently found out that he thought I wasn't into him anymore and didn't want to have sex with him. I had to explain to him that I just have a harder time getting turned on since going on the pill (I've recently switched brands so I'm hoping that this will change). Admittedly I'm also a little turned off because at the moment sex does hurt!
I love him deeply and want nothing more than to be able to make love to him without any complications (dealing with a LDR is hard enough as it is). I know that he finds a great amount of pleasure in my enjoying sex and having orgasms and I want nothing more than to see him enjoy sex and be able to move freely without concern for hurting me.
I have a lot of faith that this is just a temporary thing and that whatever is wrong with my body can be fixed. I'm not so sure about my b/f's self esteem in the mean time. I feel bad knowing that he's so upset about this. At the same time both of our patients are beginning to wear thin with the situation and we are fighting about this more and more.
Guys, given the situation is there anything that I could do to help him through this while I'm working with my Dr. to help clear things up? I'm not unwilling to be intimate with him in any way including sex (ALWAYS with a condom) until everything is cleared up. Itís really just his declining attitude and self esteem that I am concerned with.
(Sorry if this was long and I really hope that it makes sense)