My Girlfriend's Sex Drive has left the Building - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

mushmorten · 08-11-2003, 12:03 PM

Hi all,

My girlfriend and I have been together for over 5 years. The first 3 1/2 years were awesome in every way especially sex. We were always intimate at least three times a week. Always trying different positions and both of us always reaching orgasms. Throughout her whole life she has battled unreal migrain headaches. She's tried every thing under the sun to combat them but the only thing that has ever worked successfully is Prozac. Her doctor prescribes it for her and it has worked. She's been on it for a while now and consequently her sex drive has gone down to zero. I'm ecstatic that her migraines don't haunt her anymore but now we're lucky if we have sex once a month and then it's only because she knows how much I'm dying for it and she does it just to please me but she's not into it. She's almost 50 and has just gone through her "change of life" but she's beautiful, thin, and extremely sexy (looking). She has never had children. When we do have sex it's extremely painful for her when I enter her. She's been examined by her General Practitioner as well as her OBGYN and neither of them can find anything wrong with her physically. She doesn't seem to be unusually dry inside but they have recommended the use of lubrication. She's been using replens. The problem is that isn't the problem in my opinion. The problem is the lack of desire to begin with. I think if there were something out there that could counteract the Prozac without bringing back the migraines we'd back on the road to intimacy. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

CLynneS · 09-07-2003, 03:11 AM

I feel for your wife on the migrain issue as my son has debilitating migraines.

The main reason I'm responding to your thread is that you say your wife has pian during intercourse and has been to an OB/GYN. If I may ask, what test, if any, did they perform on her? Pain is NOT NORMAL during sex. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/t_down.gif I was having the same problem as well and even had some constant low back pain. I went to an OB/GYN who basically said it was all in my head. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/blob_fire.gif After about 9 months went by, the pain was unbearable so I wwent to another OB/GYN. He did a few test but found nothing. He then talked to me about doing a laproscopy(the OB uses a scope to look into the lower abs at the female organs)to check for conditions that can't be found through more non-evasive procedures. He did the lap and, BINGO, I had a condition know as "endometriosis".

I have been symptom free since he did the lap and cleaned the endo. A lot of OB's don't listen to their female patients and endo goes undiagnosed until the patient finds an OB who will listen and perform the necessary tests. A lap is the ONLY way to confirm endo as it does not show up on ultrasounds and can't be found by regular vaginal exams. This condition is also more common for women who have never had children for some reason. If she has not had a laproscopy done and has no explained reason for the pain, I suggest she talk to her OB about the possibility of endometriosis. If the OB say she does not have it and did not perform a lap to check for it, THEN PLEASE GO TO A DIFFERENT OB!!!! That OB has done a big

The only way to know is with a lap and any OB who who says otherwise isn't worth the degree they have hanging on their wall. My husband and I could have been spared a lot of pain and frustration if the first OB would have taken the time to LISTEN to my complains and symptoms.

Please let me know what you have discovered. You can email me at CLynneS@msn.com. Good luck to you both.

Gine2D · 09-07-2003, 04:53 PM

She needs to get a blood test for her testosterone levels. Yes females need testosterone for their sesx drive as well as males. They just do not need as much of it. The medication may be killing it.

Good luck,

G

lascot · 09-09-2003, 07:18 AM

the lack of libido w/ prozac correlation is so common its almost expected. it has nothing to do with you. i have never heard of taking an SSRI for a migrane. i have both migranes & depression. two different issues, two different meds. perhaps she should see a specialist for treatment of the migranes. there are wonderful drugs developed specifically for migrane that have little effect on libido. if she takes prozac for traditional reasons as well, maybe look into switching to wellbutrin. it is known to not kill libido like other SSRI drugs.

LAS