It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Sexual Health - Men Message Board
Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 09-18-2003, 01:32 PM   #1
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2002
Posts: 18
guy4654 HB User
Post When to turn a relationship into a sexual one?

Hey guys. I'm really attracted to my girlfriend. At the movies last week, she kept running her hands up and down my leg near my knee. I think she would want to have sex, but how do I bring it up? I'm a virgin, so I'm nervous. She said she wants to watch a movie at my apartment. Should I assume she wants sex? Of course, I wouldn't force it--no means no. But, how do I make the first move?

 
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 09-18-2003, 01:44 PM   #2
Inactive
 
Join Date: Feb 2003
Location: Myrtle Beach, SC, USA
Posts: 330
Gine2D HB User
Post

You are old enough to have sex when you are able to support a wife & child. Not until then.

G

 
Old 09-18-2003, 06:46 PM   #3
Junior Member
(male)
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Posts: 32
reaccter HB User
Post

she will let you know blatantly when she wants you to screw her silly. hold tight until then. if it doesn't happen in the first two weeks, it will not happen, so move on.

[This message has been edited by reactor (edited 09-18-2003).]

 
Old 09-19-2003, 02:34 AM   #4
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2001
Posts: 28
Blue Knight HB User
Post

Quote:
Originally posted by reactor:
[B]if it doesn't happen in the first two weeks, it will not happen, so move on.[B]
That is not true. Different people varies differently since background, culture and all that stuff comes into play too.

 
Old 09-19-2003, 05:44 AM   #5
Senior Veteran
(male)
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: Australia
Posts: 910
Fles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB UserFles HB User
Post

Guy4654, no, you should not assume she wants sex. You should not assume anything in a relationship.

Play it by ear. Have a wonderful time watching that movie, holding each other close, talking and getting to know each other, doing all those things that make you both feel . . . great!

Take your time. Sparks will fly if you both want it.

{By the way, I agre with Blue Knight: reactor's comments can be ignored. Sorry, reactor.)
__________________
I hear the beat of a different drummer
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

 
Old 09-19-2003, 06:24 AM   #6
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 76
day7501 HB User
Post

OK, this is coming from a woman...
Don't listen to people who say it has to happen within a certain amount of time. It has been my experience that sex tends to change a relationship a bit. That doesn't have to be a bad change but you both have to make sure that you are ready to handle a sexual relationship. Talk about it with her or let it happen naturally. If you 2 are messing around you will feel if it is right! Don't force the issue though because then she will think you're a jerk and you are only out for sex. Oh, and if you aren't ready to go to the store and buy condoms because you are embarrased then you aren't ready to have sex. There was nothing that bothered me more than a guy scared to buy condoms.

------------------
Dawn
__________________
Dawn

 
Old 09-19-2003, 01:12 PM   #7
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2003
Location: marysville, PA, USA
Posts: 18
wennybuck HB User
Post

Quote:
Originally posted by guy4654:
Hey guys. I'm really attracted to my girlfriend. At the movies last week, she kept running her hands up and down my leg near my knee. I think she would want to have sex, but how do I bring it up? I'm a virgin, so I'm nervous. She said she wants to watch a movie at my apartment. Should I assume she wants sex? Of course, I wouldn't force it--no means no. But, how do I make the first move?
First of all this is a woman not a man. You need to be more than just attracted to her, you need to have the emotional feelings too. Never assume anything, that just gets you in trouble. Everybody is nervous their first time, but if you truely dig this girl then you shouldn't be nervous, and you shouldn't do it with her if your not comfortable with her. Have you 2 ever talked about having sex? If you can't talk to her about the subject then you aren't ready to do it. Don't push it, let it come naturally. If she comes over and you 2 start making out just go with the flow. If it happens then it happens. If it don't, then don't stress about it, it wasn't meant to happen.

 
Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
Relationship Takes a turn for the Worse..looking for advice Davids25 Relationship Health 14 01-26-2010 12:44 PM
Sexual problems in relationship- her past and my needs George2010 Sexual Health - General 28 01-16-2010 07:57 AM
can a sex relationship turn into something more?? lindsjean Relationship Health 13 12-10-2008 05:46 PM
Am I allowing sex to ruin my relationship? KatieDear808 Sexual Health - Women 6 03-13-2008 04:35 AM
Help! Can bad sex ever turn into good sex? gatorman Sexual Health - General 8 07-31-2005 06:27 PM
Husband got really defensive and mad when I asked him if he masturbates... here4support Sexual Health - Men 20 02-17-2005 01:45 PM
When to unveil the skeletons? (long) Judd Sexual Health - Women 16 01-26-2005 01:42 PM
Age Gaps: When Are They Okay? super fluke Teen Health 20 03-03-2004 01:42 AM
LOL Line Drawn Between Relationship and Sex mouse62 Sexual Health - General 18 11-03-2003 12:30 PM




Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




Sign Up Today!

Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

I want my free account

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:07 AM.



Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
Terms of Use © 1998-2015 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!