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Old 09-21-2003, 02:32 PM   #1
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I'm a 30-year old virgin who's been masturbating regularly since the age of 13 or so. I used to do it quite a lot. In recent years, I do it about once or twice a week.

Lately though, I've been doing it every day. If I cannot sleep or am bored in the afternoon, I'll get the idea to watch porn and masturbate. The thing is, it's becoming quite a task to ejaculate. It takes a long time now before I feel like orgasm might be a minute away.

For example, I jerked it last night, and again this afternoon. This last time was quite an effort. I decided to do it "lubed" and kept having to re-slobber my fingers and was giving the head lots of attention, stroking vigorously, the whole bit. I thought I was about to ejaculate and got ready to, then the feeling went away. I had to do some more serious brisk stroking just to get myself to ejaculate.

I know I'm masturbating more than I usually do, but at my age, should this be this difficult? Could this be what they call a low sex drive? If I ever find a girl and begin having regular sex, will I be able to keep up?

Thoughts, anyone?

 
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Old 09-21-2003, 07:28 PM   #3
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Gee, I never thought of that...

My point here is masturbating (when I'm bored, really) is a lot more work than when I feel the need to do it.

If I was to begin having sex (please please please) would I be able to do it every day without the hassle I am experiencing now? Isn't the guy the one who's always supposed to want it?

I've always wondered what it means to have a low sex drive. Could this be it?

 
Old 09-21-2003, 07:36 PM   #4
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Maybe you weren't that aroused. If you're like that frequently, maybe you should see a doctor.

 
Old 09-21-2003, 08:31 PM   #5
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First, slow down a little on the masterbation. Second, try not to just thing about ejaculation. Just enjoy the feelings that you are giving to yourself. Thirdly, try some new techniques like using your other hand or using the hand that isn't doing much to touch yourself in other places. There are many things you can try.

As far as when you finally have sex with a woman. I'm sure you won't have a problem with ejaculating unless you totally desensitize yourself by masterbating so much.

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Since you have the urge to masturbate, that wouldn't be considered a low sex drive. One of the above postings mentioned something about becoming desensitized. That could be your problem, from doing it so often. Take a break from it for a few days. But when you do have a sexual relationship with a women: Most women would absolutely love to have a man that takes longer than them to climax. Good luck!
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Old 09-22-2003, 08:50 AM   #7
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Question your motives for doing it. Are you REALLY aroused, or just doing it for the sake of doing it? It could be you've gotten to where you do it more out of habit than desire.

 
Old 09-22-2003, 09:11 AM   #8
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when start to masterbate really frequently, like 3 times a day(Im 18), after 2 weeks or so starts to get dificult to orgasm fast. If I masterbatr only with porn many times, I just cant come using just my imagination an no visual stimulation. I take a 3 days brake and jerk using my imagination after that.

I beleave u got used to the porn Darkfur, and u just arent very exited when u jerk off, since u said u do it to past the time when u r bored. Now...if u get a girl...u been a virgin...u ll probably be very exited(Im a virgin 2 so, dont know for sure), n wont have low sexual drive problems.
I guess u could call what u r experimentig, a "low sexual drive", but thats couse u are tired(masterbating 2 much), and if u take a break and starts to jerk off without porn, U ll be normal again.

 
Old 09-22-2003, 09:09 PM   #9
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Thanks for your replies! I think my little guy has earned himself a break.

And Miguel, I'll try to lay off the porn too. I don't think I can ejaculate by imagination alone anymore.

 
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I do think that when we do it out of boredom or habit, that it loses some of its pizazz. Also, yes, I do think things will be vastly different for you when you start having sex -- you'll experience a whole new level of desire and motivation for it, in part because you are working to give your partner pleasure (and also in large part b/c it feels much more arousing. As I'm sure you're aware, there's simply more all around sensory experience in sex.

Finally, take your time and find someone great to be with for your first time. In a way, you're fortunate to have waited this long -- you'll have both a greater appreciation for it, and a better understanding of yourself than most do when they start out.

Enjoy, and good luck in your search...

 
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