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Toof · 10-05-2003, 11:44 PM

Hi everyone, I'm new here. I wanted to know if anybody has had this problem before or knows how to deal with it.

I always have a hard-on when I'm turned on with something (like watching porn) or when I'm with my GF doing foreplay. Once I put on the condom to have sex, the erection is gone, or it is very hard to penetrate her. I've had many GFs, but never have had the actual sex with them. Is it because I'm nervous it's my first time? or is it because of the condom? I've never attempted to do it without condom, since my gf is not willing to take pills or ...

what's wrong with me?

p.s. The only chance that I've had to have sex was twice last week with my current GF. Both times it failed. My other gfs were all virgins and didn't want to have sex.

[This message has been edited by Toof (edited 10-06-2003).]

Lance2 · 10-06-2003, 03:31 AM

Hey bud, I'd say this is all about being nervous. Also, putting on a condom will cause some loss of erection as you have to stop and get the thing on. I just responded to a post over in the male anatomy section about the same sorta thing...losing erection when penetrating. Rather than go through it again, jump over there and look at my response. If you need more help, let us know!

Toof · 10-06-2003, 02:41 PM

Thanks guys. I checked other posts and as it appears I'm not the only one having performance anxiety. Yesterday, I got an erection when I was by myself and I put on the condom & I was hard for as long as I stimulated myself. So, I think it's the anxiety that is killing it. I'm sure once I enter her everything will be fine and I'll stay hard.