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Old 09-25-2003, 09:49 AM   #1
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I have this question for the guys. When it comes to oral sex how important is it? I enjoy giving my husband oral sex but for some reason I can never seem to get him to go. We have been together for 5 years and this has always been a problem for me. He says it not that important, but I think it bothers him, he is only 22 years old and I would think that should be an important part of our sex life. Does anyone have any advice?

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Old 09-25-2003, 02:18 PM   #2
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Some men have problems with it for some reason. It might be you have the wrong tempo to get him off; you aren't going deep enough; you change techniques and that throws him off, etc. It is great you care about this, as a lot of women hate giving oral. Maybe you can ask him what feels the best and try to use that technique on him. Maybe using your hands will help, and sometimes if you just lay back and let him use your mouth as he would your vagina works, though it might be a tad traumatic for you.

 
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Old 09-25-2003, 06:28 PM   #3
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Don't feel bad! I can't get my man off that way either. I've gotten others to orgasm, but hey whatever! I would rather not do it anyways cuz it's kinda gross to tell you the truth.

Other than him telling you what to "do better." I can not forsee this getting any better for either one of you. If he doesn't care, why should you?

Good luck trying!
PS. I'm sure he'll appreciate the effort!!!

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Old 09-25-2003, 07:01 PM   #4
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Thanks for the advice Magnetic and Rairai. I have been with others before my husband and didnít have this problem. So I am going to talk to him about it. Thanks again!

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It's all about personal preference on how much pressure is applied to him by your mouth, where the pressure is applied, and the rythem. Find out how he mastrubates especially his movements as he approaches orgasm, how hard he squeezes, what pace he uses, where he touches, etc. and copy it as best you can. You will probably need to use your hand along with your mouth if the mouth can't get the movement he needs.

 
Old 09-26-2003, 07:09 AM   #6
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Pam,
Yes oral sex is very important for most of us. I will say that it is not as easy to get off that way as say intercourse or a hand job. Try a using your hands more. I would think at his age it would not take to much to get a good response.
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Old 09-29-2003, 05:15 AM   #7
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my boyfriend is VERY hard to get off by oral sex.....but a finger up the butt does it every time! haha, no, but really, it takes my b/f a long time to get off just performing oral....he says he's always been like that...but adding anal play along with the oral makes him get off very fast.

 
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depends on the guy

 
Old 10-14-2003, 12:22 PM   #9
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i love when a woman goes down on me it feels great but i dont care if the girl i am with does go down on me or not just as long as she lets me go down on her but back to your ? like i stated i rely enjoy when a woman goes down on me but i have never got off when a woman does go down my problem has allwas been being told all the time not to ejaculate in there mouth allmost every woman /girl i have been with has made it very clear that they would be very ****** off if i even came close to letting lose in ther mouth or on ther face so i have this mentel block so even when i have had a woman that does not mind /or wants me to i cant i have learned to live with this and it does not bother me now

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Old 10-14-2003, 01:31 PM   #10
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You need to talk and find out what feels best, and perhaps learn some new tricks. There are some very good sites online for learning new techniques- just do a search for "how to"... I downloaded some and my wife and I both read them and put them to good use. Now we can get each other off every time. Just about ANY oral contact is going to feel good, but to feel THAT good takes more than just a passing glance.

 
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