Re: need help
I think that all of us struggle with these issues. IMO, your MIL is right. If you do love your wife and you have no intention of leaving, then, you should at least start planning on a family.
Believe me, as a guy who had kids after 40, you need to share your youth with your kids. And, you won't feel like you need a wheel chair to go their high school graduation!!
Hey, no one is ever prepared when they have kids. It's truly life changing. But, it's not something that you should rush into either. You do have to plan and talk about it, but you're never prepared.
As far as the ED thing goes, you probably go some mental/emotional things going on that make you a little unsure. Happens to all of us.
Again, IMO, office flings and romances revolve around not only looks and attraction but also something outside of that. In the office people are working on a common goal of running the business. Generally people are attracted to qualities that stand out in the acheiving of those office goals. But, take them out of the office and you may not have anything at all in common.
Same with at home. Most people get caught up in the round of going to work, coming home, doing the dishes and going to bed. With some, there is no common goal or activity outside of making sure the house is cleaned up.
My advice (that is if you aren't already doing something like this) is to start building something that you both can buy into. Do volunteer work, train for a marathon, get involved in something outside of your relationship with yourselves that gives you something to talk about and plan for. Seeing your spouse take charge of some project that you're both working on just may get you to >stand up< and take notice.
Last edited by Administrator; 04-26-2014 at 08:04 AM.