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Old 10-16-2012, 07:39 AM   #1
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masturbating instead of sex

This is my first post.

Why would a man choose to masturbate more than he has sex with his wif
e? This is not a case of wife not wanting sex. I have a pretty high drive.

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Old 10-16-2012, 10:21 AM   #2
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

Sex with a partner requires intimacy, and masturbation doesn't. What does your husband say is the reason why he doesn't want to be sexual with you?

 
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Old 10-16-2012, 11:10 AM   #3
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

My husband uses viagra. And there is viagra missing. I'm 100 percent sure he's not having an affair. I'm just wondering why a man would choose masturbation over sex with his wife.

 
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

Hello,
I think your husband is not happy with his sex life with you.

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Re: masturbating instead of sex

Really ??? We've been married 30 years. I know masturbation is pleasurable , how much does the average married man masturbate? We have sex on average 1-2 times a week.

 
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

Poor communication becomes a sexual intimacy problem, too. Please have an honest talk with your husband. It will help!!

 
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

Thank you , any idea how to start such a sensitive conversation ?

 
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

I would just be honest. I would say that I noticed that there are some Viagra missing,
and would like to know what happened with them. I wouldn't be accusatory, just questioning. Then you just have to hope that he tells you the truth.

 
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

Have an update. Well I worried all day trying to figure out what I was going to say to him, and how to say it without sounding like an accusation. In the end I ended up telling him that I had some concerns and I wanted to talk to him about it. Told him that I had discovered that 3 Viagra were missing and was concerned as to where they went. His reply was "well we had discussed earlier how, with Viagra, that alot of times I missed the spontaneity of just suddenly getting turned on and having sex." In his attempt to "surprise" me he had taken Viagra earlier and some unforseen events happened. Once I had went to bed a little earlier because I was tired and he just let me sleep. Another we had unanounced guests show up. And the third one I ended up have to work a double.
So I guess that does make sense, felt like an A@# after he told me that. Damn, made me fall in love all over again with that man. Thank you all for listening to a worried wife.

 
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

How wonderful !! I had the biggest smile on my face. I am glad that you handled it so well, and that your hubby meant it for your good, lol.

 
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Re: masturbating instead of sex

Oh my, I wouldn't have taken it as a sign that he didn't like sex with you even if he had taken it just to masturbate. Most men love to masturbate. It serves a purpose in imagination and relaxing. Don't take it personally should your husband ever happen to use one just for himself. Masturbating is an opportunity to fantasize--about trivial things mostly, but still a welcomed opportunity to many men. There's no reason that it's any sort of judgment of you. If he preferred masturbation more than you, it would be a different situation. But it doesn't sound like the odd missing pill could be a sign of anything like that. It sounds like your husband loves you very much.

 
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