Re: 19 Years Old with Serious Sexual Issues
Besides depression, could you have any psychological issues interfering with sex? Especially for younger people psychological problems are the most common issues.
Could the cause of your depression be high calcium maybe? I had mild depression & anxiety from high calcium intake for years (plus episodes of acute depression from taking melatonin--of all things). Antidepressants only helped me a little bit. I tried a lot of them. Eventually I learned that just limiting calcium intake will cure depression that's caused by high calcium. (If it's calcium-related, phosphates/phosphoric acid also make it worse.)
(Thyroid dysfunction is another very common cause of depression that's better treated with something other than antidepressants. There are many things like this that psychiatrists don't look for.)
Antidepressants often cause low libido, impotence and orgasm difficulty. If you are not seriously depressed, I would try eating better (more vegetables), plenty of exercise, and getting lots of sunlight--especially in the morning. These things help depression too. It takes weeks (up to a number of months) after you stop taking antidepressants for normal sexual function to return--especially orgasms.
Also, it's actually common for circumcised men to be unable to orgasm from oral sex (around half cannot is what people usually say in the US). So I wouldn't worry about that particular aspect of dysfunction. A lot of men are in the same boat.
If you think it's an issue of low penis sensitivity (if you're circumcised--or if you have a natural foreskin too short to cover the glans), there are things you can do to increase sensitivity. The simplest is just don't masturbate, because the more nerve signaling to the brain from the genital nerves, the less intense they feel. Another option is a soft fabric pouch called a foreskin substitute. There's also the option of stretching out a new foreskin (or making an innately short foreskin long enough to protect the glans). This is essentially the nuclear option for increasing the sensitivity of your penis. You need to read more about it before trying anything, and you have to go really slowly and gently or the skin will just tear or be numb. It can take years depending on what you've got to start from, but it is the most you can do to increase penis sensitivity (if you think that could help you). Obviously, it's a big decision and not for everybody. I'm certainly not suggesting you do it; I'm just letting you know it's an option that exists for increasing penile sensitivity.
Last edited by mc7; 11-26-2012 at 03:29 PM.