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Old 11-20-2012, 09:46 PM   #1
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20 year old, Disinterest in Sex

Hi Everyone,

My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year and a half at this point in time, yet for a very long time we have been more than comfortable having sexual intercourse with each other. Though our relationship is fantastic, it suffers a little only in the bedroom.

My girlfriend and I enjoy making love, however, she has a considerably greater sex drive than I do. The few arguments we have are only about my sex drive, or lack thereof.

I have a very low sex drive, almost to the point of plain disinterest sometimes, and I don't understand why. I am more than attracted to my beautiful girlfriend, yet I never really want to have sex. I don't know what's wrong, really; a lot of guys grow up learning that guys love sex and television and media portray men as lusty, insatiable people that will do nearly anything for sex and that the mere mention of a woman's genitalia is enough to have a guy foaming at the mouth.

I'm not like that. I never was. I have spoken to my girlfriend about this and we smooth it over, but within a few weeks we always end up arguing again.

Is it natural for me to be this disinterested in sex?
I feel as though I should have more sex drive, and I wish I did to be perfectly honest.

I just wanted to know if there are young guys out there like me that have considerably low sex drives. I just want to know if how I feel is normal.

Any information you can provide would be greatly appreciated.

 
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Old 11-22-2012, 10:28 AM   #2
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Re: 20 year old, Disinterest in Sex

Hi. I hope I am not out of line but here goes: could you be gay? You perfectly describe my experiences as a young man. Yes I am gay. Maybe you are repressing your real feelings. Hope everything works out.

 
Old 11-22-2012, 07:51 PM   #3
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Re: 20 year old, Disinterest in Sex

Hi tommyryy,

Believe me, you are not out of line by asking such a question. I know for a fact I am not homosexual. Without sounding crude, I simply am not attracted to men, and I find women incredibly attractive in both a physical and personality sense.

It's not that I don't enjoy intercourse with my girlfriend, I do very much, but getting into "the mood" is a different story entirely.

I don't really know why I am disinterested in sex. I was brought up in what I believe was a healthy environment regarding sex, but media has skewed my view of sex in a bad way, I suppose.

Maybe I have some hidden fear involving sex, but I really don't know.

 
Old 11-22-2012, 09:01 PM   #4
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Re: 20 year old, Disinterest in Sex

Hi Replayrtt
Thanks for your message. I am glad that my question was OK. No worries - I feel the same way about women that you feel about men. I was wondering about a few other things that may help . If these are to personal feel free not to respond:
1) Are you in otherwise good physical condition? Height, weight, family heriditary things? how is your energy level?
2) Do you have an problems with sexual preformance such as ED ore premature ejac?
3) Do you get sexually excited by seeing sexy women's clotheing or porno?
4) Do you mastrabate? How often?
5) Are there any hobbies, sports or other activities in your life that you are super passionate about?
6) Do you drink alcholol or do recreational drugs?
7) Could it be that you just dont fhave strong passionand feeling for your present girlfriend?

These are just some thoughts I had. Maybe they will help. I really hope that in some way they can help you get to the bottom of things.

Hugs

Tommy

 
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