Just want to thank you ahead of time for reading this. Never thought I'd end up on a site like this but good to know there is a community out there that will listen.
Here is my situation, I'll try to keep it brief:
I am 21 and have "tried" to have sex about 10-12 times total. I have never had a girlfriend, this is with various different girls. I'd say 2 of them were positive sexual experiences. Most of them ended with losing an erection and needing to apologize. i am UNCIRCUMCISED. This may be the cause of the issue.
Details: I am straight, and have no issue talking to girls. I just don;t have much sexual experience for someone my age. I have had a history of tight foreskin. I can retract the skin flaccid without any issue or pain at all (this was not the case a few years ago). But when erect, I cannot roll the foreskin like I can when it is flaccid. I can see the glans a little, but cannot get it to stay back. sometimes I trick my penis and roll it back flaccid, then try to get an erection. I am able to keep the skin back in doing so, but it is painful, and I usually just end up losing the erection.
Given that my partners usually roll the skin back and fellate me with the head exposed, this poses a problem: I cannot maintain an erection and have the foreskin back.
I also watch pornography and do not have the best diet, 2 issues I am looking to solve in 2013.
But guys, I just have so many questions at this point as to why I am unable to enjoy a normal sex life. Could it be my foreskin issue (my prediction), my porn addiction, or my seemingly simple diet?
I understand porn is a problem, so what I am really asking for here is how to resolve the tight foreskin (only with erection) issue, and if anyone else could shed light on maybe dealing with the problem in his own life.
I agree with you about porn. It presents a completely distorted and perverted view of women (and guys, for that matter).
You can start to solve your difficulty by going to the Men's Health Message Board and finding the sticky headed Stretching To Fix Tight Foreskin (Phimosis). Do the stretching exercises (with an erection) at least once a day for a month. This will loosen the foreskin so that you will eventually be able to retract it easily.
If the pain you describe is because your exposed penis head is very sensitive to touch, you can make it less sensitive by retracting the foreskin when you shower, soaping up your penis and touching the head for as long as you can. At other times, you can desensitise the head by applying some lubrication and touching it as much as you can.
Don't worry, Koranguy. Since you can retract easily when flaccid, you will be able to retract when erect provided you stretch your foreskin regularly. Best wishes.
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The Following User Says Thank You to Fles For This Useful Post: koranguy (01-20-2013)
That's another great answer, Fles. I would add only one small thing. And that's about the paraphimosis he mentioned giving himself.
You mentioned pulling the skin back and getting an erection and it hurting. Do not do that (until the skin is loose enough to make it painless). That hurts because it's stretching the skin so much that it's tearing (hopefully just invisibly but that's what causes the pain). The healing from the tearing will actually make the skin tougher and tighter too, so it's worse than just the pain. That's the general rule of this tension-induced skin growth, don't ever apply so much tension that it's painful. Painful stretching is actually usually counterproductive.