Alright first let me start off with I am a very active 20 year old, I recently was hooking up with a girl and I could not achieve an erection, I was very drunk so I assume that was the problem, now me and this girl ended up hooking up 3 other times 2 of the times me being drunk and could not achieve an erection and it was very embarrassing , but the one time we hooked up and I was completely sober I got an erection when we were just laying there and making out but when she was about to do anything to me I instantly got soft and could not get it up again. I don't know if it was nerves or what??
This was recently about a month ago, but a year ago I had the same problem with a girl we were hooking up and I could not get hard. Throughout my whole life besides being in college, i would honestly get hard when I touched a girls hand and my relationship I had in high school there was no problem at all getting hard, and staying hard.
Also to add to this I have recently noticed that the past 6 months I have not had a random erection throughout the day, and only can achieve one when i masturbate which I do produce good erections and there is no problem when I am masturbating. I also wake up almost every morning with an erection, but just during the day or fantasizing about a girl I can not get one.
Finally to add to all this I have been masturbating for as long as I can remember, from anywhere from 1-3 times a day, and I have been researching online and some websites say that excessive masturbation can be very harmful and can cause these exact effects, and some websites say it is completely normal.
I am just really confused with what is going on, like I said when I was in high school which was only 2 years ago I had no problem whatsoever with getting hard with a girl, it was almost embarrassing with how often it happened, I remember my girlfriend in high school actually asking me why was I hard when we were just laying on her bed. And i could also get rock hard erections when I was completely wasted. I don't know if me not being able to get hard is because of performance anxiety, and me being nervous because I have only had sex with my one girlfriend in high school, or if it is a result of the excessive masturbation from all these past years, and I am also concerned with how I have not been able to get an erection without stimulation (besides morning erections) anymore when I used to get them all the time?
Any answers to what any of you think may be the problem will be greatly appreciated.
There are some activities that we should avoid and should do.
-Avoid alcohol, or drink as few as you can. Too much fermentation in your body is not good for blood absorbtion of oxygen.
-Managing stress, as usual, trans-gender from teenage to 30s, most of the mind state changes overall. The peakest curve of free responsibilities would dropped and drawn back dramatically to the state of thinking about what would be my future is. Because, in productive age, someone should work, have a job, or making an earning. Which it's less in teenage or while at school or college.
-Masturbation. Why did I recommend to refrain from this activity? Because it's our past. It's glorious in teenage where curiosity takes place, in which the curiosity also added more sensation and stimulation for it. Due to mind changing state, and sense of responsibilities appears more plus the stress too, hence the curiosity also vanished in the meantime. We knew what the sex is majorly.
So, masturbation resembles as a pull-back in one's sexual life, regarding what he/she should do in current age. Unwillingly to face the future, but still want to live in the past. It's the best if a man focus his sexual target for the partner he loves, his wife. Because masturbation may also ruin someone's marriage life. It took a great sacrifice from a woman if she willingly to let her man to masturbate more than to notice what she wants.
Work the same with porn. Refrain from it is the best option.
-body work/sport activities/recreation. This is very important. These outdoor activities may help to prevent someone from being alone, to masturbate, to watch porn. Tired after the activity is one of the reason. But doing it together wit family/partner is the best option.
-healthy meal and more water. Control the diet, don't eat too much of something delicious, or higher cholesterol like junk food type. More with vegetable, especially green colour. More water is recommended. More urine that's going out, may refresh your blood with more oxygen from water.
-don't stay too long in air conditioned room. Avoid cold temperature contact in longevity. In order to work out your blood flow to your penis, make sure your body is in gentle-warm condition. You may have a good stamina with it. Drink warm water once in the morning before going to work, and for another one after you come home.
-have a salty water bath (my favorite), once a month. Salt/sea water is a "hot" type element. So, I think it would help you to push out the sweat, this including pushing out the small bad radicals, dust etc from our body. Which may procreate a smoother ventilation on the skin. The more flexible your skin is, the better the blood flow inside. Actually, it's more refreshing better than any spas or any type of milk bath treatment, imho.