Im a 20 year old male and recently i discovered that the foreskin is supposed to pull back. Surpirsingly nobody had told me anything till now. All the pornographic movies i saw so far thought they were all circumcised. After some research thanks to the internet, i found out that this is called phimosis. When i was younger i tried to pull back my foreskin, and a couple of times i managed, even with some pain. But the thing was that the foreskin stuck there, didnt go up. I waited till the erection was down and then with strugle pulled it up to the original place. Now i have a year more or less that i started having sex. No doubt i didnt feel much and could last for hours until my partner asked me to stop because she was tired. Even one time when we had sex without condom it was the same thing, like every time else, minor feeling and i didnt come. The problem is that now after started having sex, the foreskin is tougher, and i cant pull it at all! (Befored i had sex i could pull it with difficulties but at least i could) Today i tried to but forced it so much that i bleed like a papercut on the foreskin. I know circumision is a good solution but i dont want to go into that. I want to enjoy sex like its supposed to be and see what ive been missing. Also im affraid now that my skin is tougher it will be impossible to get it to place if its stuck again belowe the head. Can you help me? Thank you in advance.
Do not attempt to retract your foreskin if this results in splitting and bleeding. You will have to wait until the skin has had time to heal completely before you try to stretch your foreskin.
Go to the Men's Health Message Board and find the sticky headed Stretching To Fix Tight Foreskin (Phimosis). It is near the top of the page. Do the stretching exercises (with an erection) at least once a day for a month and you will probably see some progress. Continue the stretching exercises and you will be happy with the results. Do not stretch your foreskin if it results in pain, tearing or bleeding.
If you can't retract your foreskin after persistent, regular and long-term stretching exercises, you will have to consult a doctor. In your current condition, having sex without a condom could result in tearing your frenulum -- resulting in much pain and blood.
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I know why you're surprised no one ever told you, it seems like someone should have mentioned something so basic and important as how the penis works at some point--especially in our supposedly enlightened modern society. But no, foreskin ignorance is still extremely common. I think it's getting a bit better at least.
There are only two things I know about that can cause the skin to become tighter 1 tearing and subsequent scarring and 2 yeast infection, so if your skin got tighter at some point for no apparent reason, I would suspect yeast infection first--especially if the skin there ever itches. Yeast infections can stimulate skin cell proliferation making the skin grow tougher and making smegma at the same time. Phimosis makes you much more prone to yeast infections, so the unprotected sex or even just oral sex may have given you a yeast infection. Does it or has it ever itched?
Simple skin yeast infections like this are pretty common. Ear infections are usually yeast, athlete's foot, dandruff, thrush, a lot of diarrhea is yeast... basically yeast can infect anywhere on the body. The only thing that makes a yeast infection of your foreskin worse is that phimosis prevents you from drying the area out. And dryness is the simplest way to kill yeast.
If you could have minor yeast infection there now, I would recommend drinking cranberry juice. It has some very helpful cleansing properties as well as being anti-yeast. Even more importantly, milk, cream, and sweets make it much more difficult to overcome yeast and other infections, so you should avoid them if there's any chance you could be fighting an infection. High calcium in the diet won't help stretching or skin growth either. If it could be a bad infection, you'll need to get an antifungal drug from a doctor. But if you see a doctor, don't accept an antibiotic prescription alone, if that's what your doctor would suggest. Antibiotics almost always make yeast problems much worse (at least for as long as you take them). So at least get an antifungal drug to take along with any antibiotic(s) (if your doctor is very sure that antibiotics are in order).
And read about paraphimosis on the thread Fles mentioned. That's what you gave yourself a long time ago when you got the skin stuck back. You don't want to do that.
I got the same problem my buddy. I'm 19 years old. Sex always seemed overrated because of the little feeling I get from it. I've asked my doctor and he gave me steroid cream which didn't help. I went back to the doctor today after almost a year and he said circumcision is the only other option. He's a pretty old school doc so I'm hoping there's something else that can be done.
Tearing is a problem with stretching. Ask your urologist to remove only the phimotic ring that is constricted. Tell him you do NOT want a complete circumcisiion. He may give you an argument and reasons why you should have a complete circ but be adamant. Remember he is working for you and he needs to respect that. I have been down that road 20 years ago and have no problems since.