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Old 01-27-2013, 12:26 AM   #1
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Unhappy Cure of Premature Ejaculation

Hi all,

I am a guy in early thirties, and I am suffering form PE.

When I masturbate I last long enough, but if I masturbate after watching a porn or a sexy scene, even if I am hard or not and my penis is a bit wet with that sticky liquid and then I come really quickly.

Same is the case when I am with my girlfriend, when I am with her I am aroused most of the time and my penis is same wet as while watching porn and I come within seconds of entering her. I am really embarrassed because of this problem and I really like this girl and dont want to loose her, though she has never complained about it and she is always supportive and saying that its all gonna be fine.

Please help me with this issue what should I do?

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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

There appear to be different causes of PE. Is your frenulum tight?

 
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Old 01-28-2013, 09:54 PM   #3
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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

Sorry what is frenulum in simple words, tried to google it but it wasnt clear? Thanks

 
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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

Oh, yeah it's slightly complicated because there are other frenula on the body. There are a couple frenula in the mouth. But I meant the penile frenulum, the preputial frenulum. It's the flap (or can look more like a chord) of skin that connects from beneath the meatus to the skin on the shaft below that. Do you know what I'm talking about now? Does that chord/flap pull tight when you pull back on the skin of your penis the normal amount that you do?

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Yes I know what you mean now, I tried to check it with hard on, my penis skin unfolds all the way it can, but I am not sure how tight the frenulum is supposed to be. When i pull the skin all the way back the frenulum pulls my penis down from the bottom where its connected. But it does not hurt or anything. So I am not sure if it is tight:-( And my penis getting a bit wet while watching sexy movies or while being with my girl is that normal?
I appreciate your help so much, please assist if you can to deal with this problem.

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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

First, the pre-ejaculatory fluid that you've asked about is completely normal (if it's clear or slightly white as usual). It is supposed to do that. And preseminal fluid is just like semen in that some men make more of it than others do.

I asked about your frenulum because a small study in China found that some men who had tight frenula also had PE. But your answer sounds like that's not anything you need to worry about.

Now my next question is when you ejaculate, does it feel good like it's supposed to, or has it stopped feeling good and it just kind of happens without feeling like much? If it's just happening without feeling good, I would consider that it may be an effect of a genital infection of any sort (and potentially even mild enough to fail to notice). So does the orgasm still feel good or has it become more like a physical reflex that doesn't feel like much?

 
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No sir it still feels good as it always has, and i guess as it should.
So what could be the problem. I really appreciate you help.

Thanks

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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

Ok, that's good. I didn't think it was likely. But it was worth asking.

There are things that you might try to reduce your sexual excitement when it's built up more than you'd like. The most obvious thing is to take a break from whatever you're doing for a moment or two. Have a drink of water maybe. Or even more simply, you might just breathe deeply at least a few times. When we are sexually excited, we tend to hold our breath slightly. So you'll probably find it very calming and centering just to breathe more deeply.

And then there are things you might consider to reduce your sensitivity a bit. First using a condom helps reduce sensitivity in a way you should find helpful (besides it's a good habit for other reasons). There are other things you might try to reduce sensitivity, however I wouldn't get too carried away with these, because you might think you have too much now, but it will inevitably go down with age. (By their 30s or 40s, I think most men tend to miss the sensitivity they had when they were younger.)

Anyway, one of the simplest things you might try is masturbating with the skin pulled back more, so that you're rubbing over the head more directly. (Incidentally this is how men with less skin masturbate because they don't have enough skin that moves to use it.) Rubbing the penis like this instead of pulling over the skin (the way you probably do) can reduce sensitivity a lot and quickly. (Over time it will make the penis grow tougher skin, so you can see why you wouldn't want to overdo it with this or make it your usual style, but you should find it helps you last longer.)


Another thing to consider about short(er) ejaculatory latency is, how quickly after ejaculating can you get an erection again? Because if you can get an erection again within less than 5-10 min, you don't really have to look at ejaculating as a reason to stop having sex--it's just a short break for you. Just switch to focusing on your partner completely in the interim. Some guys who can do this may not have noticed that they're able to get an erection again only a couple minutes after ejaculating. Basically I think short ejaculatory latency can just be a matter of what you make of it. I mean, it doesn't necessarily have to be an inconvenience. It might only become more inconvenient if you treat it like it's some kind of failure and feel bad about it and quit. (And there may not be any reason to do that.)

 
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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

When I masturbate with pulling skin back, would i make me come really quickly?

 
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I have heard a lot about Promescent, is that any good or If I should be trying that, and is that something temporary or its gonna help me in future to last long even with out using it?

 
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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

Yeah, there's a good chance that it would at first because it will stimulate the nerves a lot more (than the gentler motion of moving skin the skin over the head). But you wouldn't be doing this for how long you last from doing it, you'd be doing it for how long it would help you last in the future from desensitizing the nerves.

It depends a lot how sensitive your nerves are to begin with how much of this you might want to do to be as sensitive as you want. You might find doing this once a day, only two or three times is very desensitizing for a long time, like a couple weeks or months.

And like I said, you don't want to do this all the time or it would desensitize you a lot more than you like.

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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

So how do I exactly do it, If I am getting it right, I should pull the skin all the way back with a hard on and keep it pulled back touching the head of pennis, is that right? I did try it dry but didnt work hand wudnt move upside down without skin on? please explain how to do it the best way and my query is done, U have been a really big help.

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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

So how do I exactly do it, If I am getting it right, I should pull the skin all the way back with a hard on and keep it pulled back touching the head of pennis, is that right? I did try it dry but didnt work hand wudnt move upside down without skin on? please explain how to do it the best way and my query is done, U have been a really big help.

Thanks heaps

 
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Re: Cure of Premature Ejaculation

Oh yeah, I'm sorry. I forgot that it wasn't obvious that you'd need to use lube (of some sort) in order to do that. Don't ever use anything that shouldn't be used on the penis, but many lotions, vegetable oils, and even just saliva could work. (Oh, and if you use lotion or any other oil for lube, the residue it leaves on the penis will make condoms break. The only condom safe "oil" is silicone oil, technically silicone ether.)

And also I should say, don't ever pull the skin back so far that it's painful on the frenulum. It's rare, but it's actually possible to rip the skin there from pulling it very aggressively. (And if it does seem to be tight, you can probably make it grow longer just with regular gentle tension over a period of months.)

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Old 02-02-2013, 04:37 AM   #15
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Thank you so much mc7 you r a legend, hope doing this helps me. I will write to you in future about the results.

Thanks again

 
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