I know exactly what your going through. I have tried having an intercourse 6 times and i still cant get his penis in. And im 22.
I think I might have a condition called vaginismus. Have you heard of it??Vaginismus is a much more common problem than woman may realize. But before you start panicing its almost always curable.
Vaginismus is an involuntary spasm or contraction of the muscles surrounding the vaginal opening, making penetration of the penis into the vagina very painful or even impossible. Much like the way an eyelid closes when
something comes to close to the eye or a muscle flinches in response
to an imminent punch, vaginismus is like a vaginal flinch. Women who suffer from vaginismus are capable of becoming sexually aroused, achieving lubrication, and even orgasm through other stimulation.
Do you anticipate pain?? If so, you need to learn to RELAX and try not to think about it so much. vaginismus is mainly of psychological rather than physical origin, its just tense. Fear makes the vagina tighten up so that it's almost closed and nothing can get in. Before having an intercourse have a long hot bath to relax your vaginal muscles, also light candles, dim the lights and listen to some soft music - it helps!
Try to learn how to control and relax the muscle, which can be done in different ways. .
You have to increase the communication between your boyfriend too. If your still having problems speak to your doctor.
Hope this helps.
Last edited by bfl; 11-10-2003 at 11:30 PM.
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