I am not a teen but my neice brings her friends to my home all the time . I overheard a conversation and suspect Julie is pregnant. I want the girls to feel free to discuss anything with me and I want to be supportive not judgemental. I know the parents are unaware. Any suggestions I could make might be helpful. Do I tell the girls I know about the pregnancy?
Yes i would tell them that you know about the pregnancy. Afterall if she is a teen she may need someone older to look up to, and for guidance. I thik it would be very beneficial if you told them you are aware of the situation. she may be releived you know
I certainly wouldnt just go up to her and say " I heard you talking that you think your pregnant" SHe will think you were trying to listen, or invading her privacy....
Maybe you could try just bringing it up in a way, to tell her that you want her to know she can tell you ANYTHING, without you being angry or upset at her.....just make that known to her, maybe she will come to you , if in fact she is pregnant.
I mean, you definately need to get yourself involved, thats always important,esp in a teens life, but you have to be very careful.....Obviously she looks up to you enough, and stuff, cuz she brings her friends to your house to hang out.
Just play it cool for a while and see what happens....maybe make her mother aware of what you heard? Of course, if her mom will flip out on here, thats not good either.
That is hard. I would assume that you and your niece must be at least kinda close since she comes to your house a lot and brings friends. I would suggest that you assure her that she can talk to you about anything. If she doesn’t say anything, tell her that you overheard and were concerned that she may need someone to talk to. I’d let her know that you were there for her no matter what she decided and you just want to help her chose what is right for her. My sister and I str far apart in age, so my niece is only 5 years younger than me. We’re quite close and I always tell her she can talk to me about anything. I know it will be hard for both of you, but if she is pregnant, I’m sure she’ll be relived she has someone older to talk to. Perhaps you can help her tell your sister then if she wants. Good luck and let us know what happens.
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I'd definately approach her about it, she'll need someone with some maturity to talk to & help her make decisions. Also maybe let her know you'll help her when it's time to tell her mother (if you plan to help her with that). But I certainly would not go & tell her mother without her knowing about it first. That will break any trust she has in you and put you in the middle between her and her mother, that's never a good thing.
I think just approaching her with the fact that you're there for her & she can tell you anything is a good start. If she doesn't talk about it, maybe bring up that fact every couple of days for a week or two. If she still doesn't come clean, then I'd be more direct. She will absolutely need an adult "on her side" so to speak, and the sooner the better.
