Ok guys, ill admit i am kinda embarressed about talking about this. But, why is it that i can get sprung for no reason when im in the middle of class, but i cant when my G/friend offers me herself? I get sprung even during foreplay but once we both decide to make love, i just cant seem to do it. Whats wrong with me? What can i do about this? Surely, it isnt normal?
these are a bunch of questiosn that i hope will help you and also some things ive learned with my experiences. Are you a virgin? Sometimes the stress or pressure (even if it is from yourself and not from others) makes you panic and are inhibited. Make sure you are not under the influence of alcohol or other drugs---this totally decreases your chances for sexual arousal. Just make sure communication is always there and maybe fantasies will help, even if you dont tell her that u are fantasizing.
Hey bud, no need to be embarassed about this or asking the question. Many of us have problems from time to time "getting it up" when we need to. This sounds like a case of performance anxiety to me, we want to make sure that things work sooooo well and that everything is perfect. What happens is that we work ourselves up so much that the anxiety then creates the problem. Once that happens, then we're worried that the lil guy won't work and then he doesn't. So, your challenge is to keep trying and stop worrying. You know it works, because it does for you. Therefore the problem here is in your head. Next time try this....forget that you even have a penis. Focus on your girl, lots of foreplay, kissing and such. Its totally OK to use your hands to help the lil guy, or have her work with it a bit. Patience and understanding are key here, it may take more than one attempt at this, but when all is well...things will be great! One more thing, plan ahead and don't masturbate several days before hand...that may help as well.
I think that you might get stressed out when you decide to make love. Just relax. It used to be that when I was with my gf I would be hard then she would offer me a bj and I would go limp. I was just nervous. Once I calmed down a little when she offered me the bj I got a little harder if that is possible.
