Blastoff9600

MrNice,sorry to break it to you but men can orgasm without ejaculating just like they can ejaculate without orgasming.
This is from I book I have,The Multi-Orgasmic Couple and it can also be found in the Multi Orgasmic Man by the same authors,Chia and Abrams(if I remember correctly). The first book was a very interesting read. Dh did try to stuff in it for a while but then stopped...got tired of it I guess. He did manage to orgasm without ejaculation once. So yes men can decide to ejaculate or not,granted it takes a certain trick to do it but it can be done.

To become multi-orgasmic man,you need to understand some basic facts about your anatomy. The most important fact is that orgasm and ejaculation are different. This is so startling for most men(and women) that we need to explain exactly how they are different. Let us begin byby defining orgasm and ejaculation. Physiologically,an orgasm is the contraction and pulsation that most men feel in their penis,prostate,and pelvic area. It is accompanied by an increased heart rate,breathing rate,blood pressure and results in a sudden release of tension.
Obviously,orgasm is much more than these rather mechanical physiological changes. It is the peak experience of sex for most people,and it is one of the most intense and pleasurable parts of being human. If you have ever had an orgasm,and almost all men have,you know exactly what we are describing.
Ejaculation,however,is simply a reflex that occurs atn the base of the spine and results in the ejection of semen. It is,in short, an involuntary muscle spasm.
Granted,it is a pleasurable muscle spasm,but it is a muscle spasm nonetheless. Sense so many men have learned to connect all the pleasure of orgasm with ejaculation,it is important to understand that most of the lighting and thunder that you associate with ejaculation is really what comes with orgasm--with or without ejaculation.

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