Hello,
I can masturbate and ejaculate without any problem. However, when a girl is giving me a handjob or blow job, I often don't ejaculate. I mean, I enjoy it and am erect, but I don't get to "that" level of enjoyment. I figure it is either attributed to the consumption of alcohol or nervousness.
This is a major problem for me, as it usually leaves my partner feeling as if they had failed or that I wasn't turned on by it.
Thanks a lot for any help!
Hello,
I can masturbate and ejaculate without any problem. However, when a girl is giving me a handjob or blow job, I often don't ejaculate. I mean, I enjoy it and am erect, but I don't get to "that" level of enjoyment. I figure it is either attributed to the consumption of alcohol or nervousness.
This is a major problem for me, as it usually leaves my partner feeling as if they had failed or that I wasn't turned on by it.
Thanks a lot for any help!
Well guys and girls have the best sex with themselves. this means they know how to please themselves more then anybody else. Maybe what you should do is take notice to how you masturbate.......then let her know how you like it, just guide her along. Or.....you can put on a porno while she is doing it. Just kidding. But try that, see if it works. I know alchohol does contribute, cause when I am drunk, no hand job in the world will do it for me. good luck!!
id tell her that it isnt working like it should, but be nice about it and tell her it isnt her fault
try and help her out / plus u never know when u r not so pleasing for her so be honest and she ll be to u
Thanks guys (and gals).
I think it has a little to do with masturbating. It only makes sense that it would "desensitize" yourself to less intense pleasures.
But, thanks, I'll definitely keep this in mind.
I belive its definitely attributed to the consumption of alcohol, I find it takes forever for me to reach that "level" after a few drinks unless its actual intercourse. Otherwise when im sober, usually any method takes me to that "level"
Well here is what I think is the problem, when she tries to give you a handjob it isn't nearly as good as one you would give yourself, face it guys can give themselves a lot more pleasure masturbating than a girl giving him a handjob(unless they also have a lot of practice,lol) I wont let a girl give me a handjob mostly because I know this fact, and with the blowjob problem maybe she needs more practice or maybe she needs to find better techniques or something, give it time, if she gets enough practice, with you that is, she will get better, just like sports and stuff. Don't stress. No reason to ever dwell on anything. And in reguards to the post above this, the guy will enjoy it a lot, you know this because he stays hard, otherwise he would just go limp for lack of pleasure, just because he doesn't "get off" doesn't mean that he doesn't enjoy it, don't worry, you'll get better and so will his pleasure level.
alcohol does have an effect on your ability to ejaculate..and sometimes, its better to just plain go at it than let someone else masturbate you...believe me...if its making girls self-conscious about their abilliy to pleasure you, just reassure them that its not them...my husband cant get off when i do that either...and thats usually not my intention anyways, but i dont feel bad about it even when it is...
join the club... dunno wat it is but another person just cant bring me to climax, no matter how good it is... perhaps its due to some sort of conditioning from masterbation
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Don't be afraid to tell her what you like. If she starts doing something you really enjoy, let her know by your reaction or by flat out saying it. If it does nothing, let her know or simply don't react. Honestly, some women never seem to get the ryhthym of what I like. Some do it naturally. It's just a matter of being in sync with each other. ABSOLUTELY forget the alcohol... it's helps women (so I've read) but not men (so I know). Nervousness could be a big factor, too. You have to let go to um let go. Just enjoy it! There is a technique in the Kama Sutra, where the man's legs are bound and the women is doing a certain technique with her hand. Forget the leg bound thing, but if she can do the hand technique.... you'll be begging for her to stop! In other words, experiment with different techniques as well.
it confuses ppl
