I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 months now and we recently started having sex. But my problem is that I have a good erection and when we start having sex it goes limp. I cant keep it up at all. It happened tonight and it was horrible. I feel pathetic. I also can't when she gives me oral sex or a handjob. I always pleasure her and i have no problem doin that but she can never pleasure me. Maybe its because i think about it before we do it. Or could it just be because i use a condom? I want to have normal sex with her so i can finish just like her. Maybe i should a have a beer or 2 to calm myslef down?
plz help
Last edited by Mod-S4; 11-18-2003 at 05:03 PM.
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You have to get much more confident in yourself, so try to get more relaxed when the moment comes and do not think in what and how are you doing it, just let it happen.
Don't get so anxious and left away that sensation of failure you are feeling. First timers use to be very streesed and tends to be so tens that fails in their action.
Perhaps if you note it, when you tray to perform you heart pumps very hard, so hard you can hear and feel it. Once you get you hart at a much slower and soft pace you will accomplish what you want much more easily.
ya i know what u mean, because we usually plan their were gonna have sex before we do it so i get just anxious and then i get all heated up and it only lasts like a minute before i lose my erection. This past summer i had a good hookup with a girl and that was the only i ejacualted from a girl. But at that time i had 1 or 2 beers. Me and my girlfriend are hanging out friday night. Is sex that much harder when your drunk?
Well, if you get drunk, it can even be possible you don't get an erection at all. Perhaps one drink can suffice to relax you, but dont try to have sex if you are really drunk, also if she gets drunk next day she will have a mix up of strange feeling.
A bit of drinking (social not dumb quantity) can help to relax things up. Also a good idea is not to plan all that much, just do it more casually, do not make too ellaborate plans, at least that worked fine for me when I was much younger.
