Let me tell you something about 'feelings'. You can fight the feelings, its a question of self-control.
Feelings are very decietful and temporary, you definately should not make choices because of the way you feel.
Do feelings last? No, they all come to an end, and so will any decision you make based on the way you feel.
Your only 16, your hormones are goin wild and crazy and I think these close feelings you feel for your friend are simply what they are, close feelings. Not SEXUAL. Most girls have a female friend they feel particularly close to, and mistake it for lust. But thats just your hormones talking.
The reason you dont know how to go about these things is because it isnt a natural act. Man with woman is whats natural.
Think about it, 2 women need a plastic penis to have sex, whats natural about that?
My advice is to just be friends with this girl, and let maturity get you where your meant to be.
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Originally Posted by hannuhsinthedark Hey Everyone....
I am not quite sure how to word this.. because its not really a problem.. its just im looking for advice and maybe a lil support..
I have a friend.. ill call her C-W... well ive known this CW for about a couple years but weve gotten closer as best friends since september this year.. and recently.. about a couple weeks ago.. we both sort ove confessed that maybe we like eachother more then a friend.. and since then, nothing has really evolved. Now. this wouldnt be the first 'same sex relation' ive had... but its the first one that was ever based on mentality first, rather then simply... sexual relations... well. the same week ove this confession, we hung out and did the norm. i slept over her house.. and we watched tv. end to that rendez vous. well. after the weekend.. i wrote in our book(((( we share a journal and write to eachother in it)))) that i was a lil dissapointed that nothing actually happened and it was later discussed that we both didnt do anything, because we didnt know what the other wanted. but now we both know what we both want.so.. i guess my main 'problem' is where we go from here.. because i dont know.. ((((FYI: im sixteen yr. old female..))) Im sleeping over her house tonight, i just dont know how to go about things.. i guess its easier for me with a guy.. because thats what its always been... but ' i cant fight this feeling anymore '
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not the first 'same sex relation' 
Your issue may have already been resolved, but I figured I post anyway. It's obvious what you and CW want. It's a lot easier to just have sexual relationships (I actually advise against purely sexual relationships, however). When you actually care about someone, things become more complicated. It sounds like you already have a good relationship. You shouldn't rush into the whole sexual thing. Take things slow and make sure you're both okay with everything. Make sure you'll both be comfortable if you decide later to just be friends. Don't listen to people that try to put you down, because having feelings for the same sex is perfectly natural, and I'm sure you probably already know that.
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