Re: getting rid of condom
I highly recommend that after sex each party go take a shower (together is fine) and urinate. For the male, this allows him to take the condom off and wash up (the semen can be yucky), and urinating clears out the leftover fluid (sometimes it clogs up the urethra). For both male and female, being able to clean up may help wash away any uninvited bacteria or virus that may still be lingering on the skin attempting to find a way inside. Back before condoms became mandatory in the brothels of Neveda, the lady would wash herself and her client both before an after doing business, and when combined with a inspection of the male's "equipment" and monthly health checks by a doctor of the ladies, the rate of disease transmission was quite low. Couples today would be wise to wash before and after, too. While pulling out after intercourse and going to sleep is what they do in the movies, there is almost always the issue of dealing with semen. If condoms are used, they have to be removed and disposed of or, if not used, the female has to go to the shower or restroom to take care of the ejaculated semen that comes back out. Yep, sex is a messy business that you don't see in the movies or read about in the books. Caring and loving females will sometimes go get a warm, wet washcloth and clean you up and take the condom away, but you still should go urinate.