Just a quick question. My boyfriend and I were messing around and then more things started to happen, we had sex without a condom. Im on the pill, I've been on it for over 2 months, do you think Im okay???
wrin. i used to be on here awhile back. gosh i can't even remember how long ago. And i just have to say. I love your posts. You're so great :-) Good to see you're still here.
As for the original poster. I agree with wrin. If you're on the pill you need to know what it's doing for your body. If you're in a semi-sexual relationship, you should make sure you're ready for any situation that might arise, make sure someone has a condom...
I think too many teens jump into sexual relationships not knowing whats really going on and not prepared. god it erks me.
I find it funnier when doctors prescribe birth control to young girls to control their hormones and or acne and the girls think its the kind of birth control that keeps them from getting knocked up, haha they get a nice wake up call
t-dash
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wrin. i used to be on here awhile back. gosh i can't even remember how long ago. And i just have to say. I love your posts. You're so great :-) Good to see you're still here.
As for the original poster. I agree with wrin. If you're on the pill you need to know what it's doing for your body. If you're in a semi-sexual relationship, you should make sure you're ready for any situation that might arise, make sure someone has a condom...
I think too many teens jump into sexual relationships not knowing whats really going on and not prepared. god it erks me.
I don't mean to say that the pill is ineffective, but why on earth would you ask that question?
I mean, presumably, you're literate like me, and presumably your pharmacist is not operating out of a cardboard box, and dispensed some literature with your medication. Also, presumably, you are not telepathically thinking this out onto the magic intarweb, you're using a computer with an internet connection, and thusly also have the power to research this yourself.
Why are you asking the opinions of strangers who have read the same literature you have? If I ask a duck if the is a duck, and the duck does not answer, does that mean the duck is not a duck?
Silly questions can easily be solved with a little research.
sorry for asking. i thought the point of these post were to help people out. i've read information on it. I just thought it'd be safer taking the pill as well as using a condom. I guess it was a dumb question, but I was just double checking.
It is not a dumb question and seeking reassurance is never bad. It might be that some people her are giving you trouble because, well, it is a little late to be asking this question - you should have thought about that _before_ you decided to have sex (and I hope you have been thinking about STDs, too).
I keep harping that only mature people should engage in sex, and a sign of maturity is being able to understand the consequences of their actions. It is easy to have sex. It is difficult to deal with what might result from sex.
Well you would assume right -- and really, you're intelligent enough to realize that! You don't need other people to reassure you that using a condom AND the pill is going to be better than the pill alone!
Give yourself some credit. Freaking out about this sex thing makes it unenjoyable.
I used to harp too, it doesn't do any good. Better just to answer the questions and possibly advice them on how to go about things more cautiously.
I'm a guy so I'm no pill expert but it takes 1 month for it to start working, you've been on it for 2 so thats okay, but the pill fails sometimes so its not 100% safe (for getting knocked up, I assume you know it does nothing for STDs), It is 0% for pregnancy if you mess up taking it, no matter how safe you are there's always the chance you'll catch something or get knocked up, so best just to be prepared to handle the situation when and if it arises.
Going without a condom is usually ok if you know your partners sexual background, or if both were recently tested for STDs.
t-dash
might want to set aside a couple hundred dollars for an abortion energecy fund if you're in your lower teens and are very sexually active. Unless you're against that.
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It is not a dumb question and seeking reassurance is never bad. It might be that some people her are giving you trouble because, well, it is a little late to be asking this question - you should have thought about that _before_ you decided to have sex (and I hope you have been thinking about STDs, too).
I keep harping that only mature people should engage in sex, and a sign of maturity is being able to understand the consequences of their actions. It is easy to have sex. It is difficult to deal with what might result from sex.
i thought the point of these post were to help people out. i've read information on it. I just thought it'd be safer taking the pill as well as using a condom. I guess it was a dumb question, but I was just double checking.
It's not a dumb question at all, that's exactly what these boards are for. As for why it's not a dumb question, considering how many people post here saying "I don't trust the pill alone, that's why I still make my bf wear a condom..." or when people tell you to "double up" and use two methods... you'd actually think the pill didn't work! Don't let any snotty comments put you off the boards.
As far as the 'safer' aspect of using a condom as well as the pill, remember that the pill doesn't protect against STDs, so that's the main reason women on the pill would still use a condom. (In other words, they're using the condom for all 'round protection, and the pill for backup to the condom.)
Now for t-dash's comment about the birth control for acne or cycle regulating not being the same kind as regular pcp: it IS the same kind. It's not like they're going to make birth control that doesn't work. They wouldn't call it birth control.
To clarify: I never meant to come across as it was a dumb question in the first place, merely to point out that it was kind of silly to freak out about it. You know just as much as everyone else on this board knows about the pill, namely that it's only 99% effective and that the pill plus a condom is a better idea than the pill alone.
Freaking out about "Will I be okay" takes fun out of the whole act of sex, and the point that was being made by Magnetic et al is just that you know what you're doing, you know what the pill is doing to your body, asking strangers for reassurance .. yeah, it's a quick fix, but you can't keep running to other people for a quick answer when you think you're in trouble.
Sex is all about responsibilty -- take the responsibilty to go and research it on your own -- is 99% okay? Are you comfortable with that? I can't tell you if you're comfortable with that -- I don't know about your comfort levels. Some people are. Some people aren't. I know some people may think it's snotty of me to tell you to be responsible for yourself and to not look for quick answers, but the reason behind it is that I see you doing the same thing I used to do when I first started having sex -- immediately being terrified that what I was doing was screwing up some tiny semantical detail and wanting to quiz everybody about it.
There's lots of books about empowerment and it's no wonder. You empower yourself by seeking out knowledge yourself without asking somebody to automatically provide it for you -- the internet makes this super-easy these days. You can go to the site of the maker of your particular brand of birth control pill and read information specific to that particular pill. And isn't it so much more satisfying to have thought it out for yourself and to know confidently than to have been told by a stranger offhand and to know only by assuming they're right?
Have confidence and comfort enough to seek the information out for yourself. Trust me, you'll feel so much smarter and safer when you find the answer without somebody handing it to you.
I find it funnier when doctors prescribe birth control to young girls to control their hormones and or acne and the girls think its the kind of birth control that keeps them from getting knocked up, haha they get a nice wake up call
t-dash
all birth control prevents a woman from becoming pregnant, even if its prescribed for acne. hence why its called BIRTH CONTROL.
I used to harp too, it doesn't do any good. Better just to answer the questions and possibly advice them on how to go about things more cautiously.
I'm a guy so I'm no pill expert but it takes 1 month for it to start working, you've been on it for 2 so thats okay, but the pill fails sometimes so its not 100% safe (for getting knocked up, I assume you know it does nothing for STDs), It is 0% for pregnancy if you mess up taking it, no matter how safe you are there's always the chance you'll catch something or get knocked up, so best just to be prepared to handle the situation when and if it arises.
Going without a condom is usually ok if you know your partners sexual background, or if both were recently tested for STDs.
t-dash
might want to set aside a couple hundred dollars for an abortion energecy fund if you're in your lower teens and are very sexually active. Unless you're against that.
It does not take the pill a month to work. It takes the pill one week to become effective if you start it sunday after your period starts, and if you start the pill the day of your period, its effective right away, no need for a back up method.
It does not take the pill a month to work. It takes the pill one week to become effective if you start it sunday after your period starts, and if you start the pill the day of your period, its effective right away, no need for a back up method.
I was told it would be effective a month after taking it, but to wait at least two to be safe. It's better to be safe than sorry.
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I was told it would be effective a month after taking it, but to wait at least two to be safe. It's better to be safe than sorry.
Two months is overkill. You can read your info packet that comes with your pills, it will reinforce what i've already told you. There's nothing wrong with using two methods of birth control. But the fact is, if you start the pill when you're on your period, the longest you need to use a backup for is one week.
Two months is overkill. You can read your info packet that comes with your pills, it will reinforce what i've already told you. There's nothing wrong with using two methods of birth control. But the fact is, if you start the pill when you're on your period, the longest you need to use a backup for is one week.
That is what I was told when I first got on the pill. Actually though, I checked my info packet and it does say a month.
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Game over. I had to accept the fact that in life some women are simply better and no amount of shoes or lack of pastry or making of pies will change that. I will never be the woman with the perfect hair who can wear white and not spill on it and chair committees and write thank you notes. And I can't feel bad about that.
Carrie, ~SATC~
I will quickly chime in...The amount of time the pill takes to be effective depends on the pill and can range from one day to one month. For example, Alesse takes one week to be active.
On another note, i know where this girl is coming from. I don't think she lacks the knowledge and ability to find out how well pills work and know the consequences; i think she simply wanted some reassurance from other women who have taken the pill. An actual personal response can mean so much more than some website on birth control pill effectiveness. And as for her doing her own research, her asking this question is research in itself.
