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Old 12-23-2003, 02:59 PM   #1
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Hey everyone,

I'm a sixteen year old boy and I've been ready to have sex for a while. I buy my own condoms, and I feel that my girlfriend and I are ready... Well one night we were getting really hot and heavy and decided to try it, and we took our clothes off and I got semi-hard because she was giving me a hand job and all ofo that, but when I went to put on the condom a burning sensation came on and I had to switch condoms, so then I got up and walked around and washed my face and came back to her for a second try. I couldn't even get it up that time... I don't know what's wrong with me! Please help...

 
Old 12-23-2003, 04:26 PM   #2
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Re: I'm so embarrassed!

If the pain just started, I'm thinking you had an allergic reaction, either to the latex or the spermicide in the condom. Try a differnent brand condom. If the problem persists, get to the doc.

 
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Old 12-23-2003, 04:34 PM   #3
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Re: I'm so embarrassed!

Thanks for that advice, but the burning only happened once and when I put the second condom on it didn't burn, and two nights later, it didn't burn either, but i'm worried about my abilities with getting hard... Am I just too nervous? Is it a medication side-effect (I have been taking anti-inflammatories, and acne medications)?... The place we picked both nights wasn't my ideal spot for the first time, could that be a factor? Many of my friends just say it's nerves, but will those nerves ever stop?

 
Old 12-24-2003, 03:59 AM   #4
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Re: I'm so embarrassed!

Hey bud, first thing...calm down. You know that the lil guy works,right? So I'd say this is nerves and not being in a place that feels comfortable and safe. The thing that happens for us guys is that we get all worked up and want things to be so perfect that we actually try to hard (no pun intended!) and that puts too much pressure on us. Then once we have trouble performing we simply can't forget that the next time...and it makes things worse. So, keep trying and be patient. Make sure that you guys are truly ready for this and that you're in a comfortable, safe place with lots of time. Try to forget that you have a penis, seriously...focus on her and her pleasure. Lots of foreplay and such, take your time and focus only on the present, forget about past "failures" and enjoy the pleasure. Maybe you don't even need to have intercourse, just mutual masturbation or something. You'll be fine, just give yourself a break...this kinda thing happens to all of us at one time or another.

 
Old 12-24-2003, 05:37 PM   #5
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Re: I'm so embarrassed!

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Originally Posted by ray_3
Thanks for that advice, but the burning only happened once and when I put the second condom on it didn't burn, and two nights later, it didn't burn either, but i'm worried about my abilities with getting hard... Am I just too nervous? Is it a medication side-effect (I have been taking anti-inflammatories, and acne medications)?... The place we picked both nights wasn't my ideal spot for the first time, could that be a factor? Many of my friends just say it's nerves, but will those nerves ever stop?
You apparently accept that it was not the place and suggest that you know it was not the time for you - maybe you are not ready after all. Patience - you have a long time before you to do what you did not succeed at these times.

 
Old 12-29-2003, 08:31 PM   #6
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Re: I'm so embarrassed!

you circumcised?

 
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