hey everyone,
my girlfriend wants me to finger her, and i want to too, um we both really want it to happen but for some reason it can't. when i put my fingers down, like just inside her vagina she scrunches her face up and it hurts her like crazy (i hate it btw, its the worst feeling knowing you've hurt the one you love). its not that i have sharp fingernails or anything, i think it might just be because she is tensed or something. um i was wondering if this has happened to anyone else, and if so what is wrong/happening to her. she wants it and i want it and its just when i touch her there it seems far to sensitive or something. im not asking how to finger her, i just am very worried about her. she can't post something herself because her mum is a bit strict about her using the internet so i posted it for her. i want to finger her, and we've been trying this for about a year now and its really worrying both of us. she hasn't tried using tampons either because she's to scared its gonna hurt to much.
please help, we dont know what's wrong. its not that i dont care about her or that she doesn't want it because she really really does!
thanks a heap for any help you can give me
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Last edited by bfl; 01-01-2004 at 10:18 PM.
Reason: edited for appropriate terminology
Well we cant give how tos. Read up on female masturbating as well, this way you can learn some tips on what feels good to a woman. Most times guys think that inserting is what is feels the best when in fact for most women dont get the right stimlulation from that. Reading up on female masturbating should help you get the right ideas on what to try.
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yeah it isn't a how-to, im just wondering why it happens. like, one of our friends said that it was because she doesn't do much sport that she might be unconfortable with using a tampon, is that true? like if you do more sport do the muscles around the vagina loosen? and i was wondering might it be that she's scared that it'll hurt her so she tenses up. im just wondering why it hurts her, because i barely even finger her, just touching the inner lips makes her "clench"
im not asking how to do it, just why.
thanks
are you trying to finger her, dry? it would be harder, and more painful is she isnt wet. also tense on top of that, it would hurt! a woman has to be aroused or nothing feels good. also being able to relax is very important.
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