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Old 01-04-2004, 02:46 AM   #1
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Hi ummm a week ago my friend and i had sex w/o a condom we never use them cuz i KNOW he doesnt have any STD's and he was ALWAYS safe (until now)! so anyways umm he came in me(that a**hole!!)!! And i told him how i dont take anything to prevent it from happening. He said that he tried to pull me off him and i didnt even feel any sign of struggle he didnt even warn me either(i was on top so yeah). its kinda almost as if he wanted this to happend?!1 then he said that " its alright i smoke [weed] way to much anyways." So ive already asked the people from the pregnancy board if weed does anything to the sperm but they said that they knew tons of potheads that ended up getting there gf/wifes preg. and that it makes some (out of a million sperms) deformed and they dont go to where there suppose to. And also my friend got his gf preg. and they both smoke daily so i dont know!

Soooo yeah its been 8 days since its happend and i cant get a hpt until i get some money. The only real signs that they mention in that teen thread are bloatingness, gassy, constipated, and fatigue o and i was queezy only on the 2 day it happend and on Thur. both around 12pm but i think it was from something i ate....i dont know if thats got anything to do with it tho but yeah. Ive also got some weird twitches and side aches even when ive done no running of the type! um heh i dont really keep track of my periods tho well i mean i have for the last two of my periods (2 months) but i dotn know if thats long enough to actually keep track. But anyways i wanted to know how long can weman go w/o like feeling queezy and eating a lot...? for my friends gf it took her a week until she started to show and eat a lot.

Umm IF im pg i wanna keep the baby and tell my mom unless the father wants to pay like 500 bucks for the abortion or really really wants me to get that done. But other than that ive been feeling really depressed, neglected and derealization (ever since i was 12 but im not taking any meds for that but i am taking midol for my migraines and headahces tho) so ill try and turn that all around and focus all my attention to the baby! ...also should i really keep it cuz well the guy(father) i had it with is bipolar and so is my dad(grandfather) he is also schizo too..?? well im not sure if you guys know much about that stuf tho.

Oh and i take midol everyday for my headaches (which i know its bad for headaches cuz of the caffiene and all but the other meds dont work and my moms been neglecting me to take me back to the dr.) and i was wondering if that i shouldnt take it anymore until i know for sure im not pg...?

This is really as close as i can get to a dr.or a specialist person by the way so thank you for any type of advice an answers!!!

 
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Old 01-04-2004, 07:06 AM   #2
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Re: worried!!!

Worried Im not gona rag on you but here are a few facts that you should know
about sex without a condom. When a dude is in you even if he doesnt ejaculate inisde you there is pre stuff that he leaks out. Precum does contain sperm so even if he does pull out you still probibly got some stuff in you. Pulling out Rythim methoid anything without barriers or the pill is not effective B/C and then nothing is 100% exept getting spade or neutered. (I know it is the wrong words but you know what i mean)

Why do you need to have your mom take you down to the Dr office there should be clinics or Planned Parent hood offices in your area that could help you. There you could get tested and plan your next step by either getting on the pill or having this baby. You stated your on meds and that you have depression etc etc having a kid is only going to put more pressure on your life than you know. 9:00 11:00 2:00am 4:00am 6:00 am feedings, Crying, changing endless diapers, and not to mention the cost of formula and diapers a pack of diapers last 3-4 days at 12.00 a pack x by 80 for the year do you have that money i will not even go into the formula part.

Taking any medications or alcohol while you are pregnate is dangerous. During the time your baby is in you it is creating a brain fingers hands feet heart internal organs and these should not have any chemicals to interfere with the creation of its body. Anything you take is passed on to the baby.

Now it is time to think smart and see a Dr Find a Planned parent hood or a clinic that will help you NOW! Take a trip to the store and check out prices of stuff you need to care for this kid. People think okay have sex have a kid and everything will be okay. If your not ready for a kid it will not be okay!

List of things you need
Formula 3x a week
diapers 2x a week
Clothes constantly
crib
insurance
copays for checkups 1 a month
medication constantly
soap
shampoos
washing soap for baby clothes
patents allways

Was it worth it?
Are you ready?
Its a 18 year ride you better hold on!
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Old 01-04-2004, 07:29 AM   #3
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Re: worried!!!

i agree with what dude said but id like to add its not just 18 years its a life time...forever its a long ride. hope everything works out for you and either way you should be abel to learn form mistakes ..good luck

 
Old 01-04-2004, 08:53 AM   #4
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Re: worried!!!

when you had sex where were you in your cycle? near your period, just finished, or in the mid cycle? mid cycle you would be ovulating and have a greater chance of getting pregnant! i dont know how old you are----but this decision (if you were pregnant) will effect the rest of your life! no matter what you decide. once your pregnant you cant go back. thats why it is SO important to use pertection, not only STD's but pregnacy. i agree, you should go to planned parenthood, it's free, and they can help you. just to share a little something with you.... i got pregnant at 16, everyday i changed my mind. abortion, keep it etc. i got too far along to have an abortion, cuz i was in denial, and my decision was to give the baby up for adoption----she is now 14, and ive KIT all these years----BUT this changed my life FOREVER! anywayz, enough babble....good luck to you! keep us posted.

 
Old 01-04-2004, 01:45 PM   #5
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i wanted to add .its not tottaly the guy responsabtiy to not ejaculate inside you .its a two way street. and its hard to get out when the dude is not bottom. also there is lots of link during sex that could get you preg wish you the best thou

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Old 01-04-2004, 02:14 PM   #6
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Re: worried!!!

ive grad. already and planning on being a massage thearapist. ya i know the baby will be a bunch of money and my moms having some huge financual problems as it is and i wuld think if i tried to tell her then shed go crazy and kill herself. so i was just going to give it up for adoption. it would be nice to have a meaning in life again tho. i have no way of getting to the planned parent hood place unless i walk across town and back....my mom works 24/7(one car) and so do my friends and there parents! im just *****ed1!! ugh im not pg i cant its not fair! cant there be pleasure and happyness at the same time in this screwd up world...!!? owell i dont care anymore like everyone else.

 
Old 01-04-2004, 07:08 PM   #7
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Re: worried!!!

I don't mean to be harsh but I hope your not pregnant because it sounds like you've got a lot of growing up to do first. Don't blame the guy for ejaculating inside you because it's a two way street.

I would strongly suggest you get on the pill if your going to keep having sex. I'm only 21 and there is no way I'd be ready to have a baby, either. I love My boyfriend and ofcourse i live in this generation, and sex is a big part of our relationship, but only protected sex.


think about this. would you rather pop a pill everyday or spare 5 seconds to throw on a condom: or change a diaper, feed a crying baby, throwing your social life down the tubes, for 18 + years?


it sounds like your life is a little crazy right now, i hope things work out for you.

 
Old 01-04-2004, 07:14 PM   #8
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Re: worried!!!

If you're planning to give the baby up for adoption sit down and think about it for awhile. My half sister was given up for adoption and she NEVER forgave her mother. I have only known my sister for 11 years. I'm glad we're are so close, but I'm sorry we weren't given the chance to grow up together... I'm 25 & have a 3 year old. She is alot of work and stress but I wouldn't give her up for anything. She is my greatest joy!!!!! I will never forget the first time she said "Love you Mama". Do what is best for you, but take your child's future feelings into consideration. Best of luck.

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Old 01-05-2004, 02:18 PM   #9
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Re: worried!!!

Hey well I was having sex with on of my friends for about 6 months and he always ejaculated in me all the time and I never ended up preg. But still you should take a test. and I always though my guy was totally clean but I got something from him but it was curable luckily! Just be carful girl I am sure you will be fine!

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Old 01-05-2004, 05:16 PM   #10
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Re: worried!!!

Well, let me get this straight.

You were having sex without a condom (because he purportedly does not have any sexually transmitted diseases.)

You are not taking birth control (for reasons unknown) but engaging in unprotected sex anyway.

And you're set most on the idea of keeping the baby so you can focus your attention on the baby and not on your depression.

(rubs eyes)

Let me say the most benign thing right off the bat; that the last way to combat your depression should be to have a child, since you're more likely to resent it than anything else. If you want to turn it all around, you can't improve your own mental health by totally abandoning its upkeep.

Let me also say that if your intent was to not get pregnant, then your lack of birth control sure showed your ability to take responsibility for the situation and ensure that that did not happen.

Ditto for the whole condom thing, that being birth control.

Additionally, let me say that it should not be 100% responsible for "the man" to pay for your abortion -- (my, that sounds crass) if you are going to have an abortion, you should perhaps work together in making it happen? And as early as possible, when there's fewer health risks to you.

If you are planning on putting it up for adoption, inform people NOW, and get started on the selection process RIGHT DAMN NOW, because people don't realize how long it takes, and that you can't wait until month number six.

If you are planning on keeping it (eesh) let me please encourage you to at least start proper prenatal care for yourself (vitamins et al) and to start counseling to prepare yourself for this, since it is going to be a huge strain on your depression.

Also: please don't listen to people who say you should not consider adoption an option because some adopted individuals never forgave their parents. There are as such things as open adoptions (my friend is currently making arrangement for one -- she's having twins) and also, if that person cannot accept that your decision for adoption was based on a wish for a better life for them, that is not for you to feel bad -- a positive decision for you ultimately ended up being a positive decision for them (as they ended up with a better life) and if they can't forgive you for giving them the best life they could have, that's really not your problem.

 
Old 01-06-2004, 02:34 AM   #11
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Re: worried!!!

Are there no buses running where you live? They'll get you to the clinic or Planned Parent. You need to step up and take responsibility. If you kept the baby, and say it got sick and you needed to get that baby to the hospital, would you say, "Awww...nobody's going to drive me so oh well...hope the baby heals by itself."
You need to do some fast actions NOW.

About the depression - don't let this slide. I have always suffered from depression...since early childhood. My husband and I decided to have a baby. Although, I would never ever give my son back now, I have to tell you, raising a baby with depression is HARD!! I stayed at home for a year and a half...and finally came to the point where I could no longer take care of my child. I decided that I needed help and so we put him in daycare. I know it was the right decision but I live with terrible guilt and pain because of that. Depression affects everyone in the family and they all suffer. I try to be very brave around my son and act like I'm fine...he's three and he already senses that Mommy is sick a lot. I'm terrified what effects it will have on him. Fortunately, I am blessed with a husband who takes on what I can't and because of this, he's always exhausted. But he has a beautiful bond with my son that I do not.

Sorry I went on a rant but please be more careful in the future. I hope I've given you something to think about.

But let's also remember that you don't even know if you're pregnant or not. You will not be able to take a HPT until your first missed period anyway. You can get it done earlier by having a blood test but you'll need to see a doctor. I'm not sure if the clinics do this or not.

Good luck and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

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Old 01-06-2004, 07:26 AM   #12
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Re: worried!!!

Meg makes an EXTREMELY GOOD POINT.

If you can't be bothered to get down to planned parenthood, how are you going to be able to go for routine ultrasounds, OB/GYN exams, doctor's visits? And that's even IF you are planning to put it up for adoption! This baby needs to be taken care of even before it's born, you need to be weighed regularly, put on vitamins, have your diet looked at, GO FOR ULTRASOUNDS.

Nothing breaks my heart more than having some young girl come in the emergency at 22 weeks pregnant and walk in and DELIVER RIGHT THERE because she didn't take care of herself. IT HAPPENS!

Have a good hard think about this before going on to have unprotected sex again, please.

 
Old 01-17-2004, 08:01 PM   #13
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Re: worried!!!

Well i dont know what exactly to say i mean umm thanks for your conserns! i finually took an hpt test and i have no idea what it ment since i peed on it to much and instead of showing all parallel lines it showed a faded horizontal line in the one window and a faded parallel line in the other. Umm i didnt want the guy to pay the full amount of the abortion but since hes got the life and the jobs and my mom and i are going through some financual problems so yeah. Hmm and yeah i dont know thank you an sorry i havent replyed sooner.

""i wanted to add .its not tottaly the guy responsabtiy to not ejaculate inside you .its a two way street. and its hard to get out when the dude is not bottom.""

yeah but he didnt warn me either..hwo am i suppose to know when the guy was going to ejaculate..? and heh if precum does have sperm then i guess i would have been pg a bunch of times!!

Thanks again!!!

 
Old 01-18-2004, 01:23 PM   #14
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Re: worried!!!

i don't mean to be rude....

but people like you should not be allowed to have sex.

"and heh if precum does have sperm then i guess i would have been pg a bunch of times!!"

you have no education about what you're doing. and take no responsibility. you can't even preform a hpt test in the correct way.

"Are there no buses running where you live?"
so how does your mom sleep if she works 24/7??
you can find a ride to a party, or to your boyfriends house so you can have sex...but you can't possibly find a ride to planned parent hood??
how about you walk there? i assure you that walking across town one day will be a lot easier than carrying a baby, or going through an abortion, or adoption or anything else you may come to experience.




THINK.

 
Old 01-20-2004, 05:36 AM   #15
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Re: worried!!!

Quote:
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and heh if precum does have sperm then i guess i would have been pg a bunch of times!!

Thanks again!!!
I agree, you obviously are very uneducated on what it takes to get pregnant.

 
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