I've had this problem ever since I have started dating girls. I get erect too easily! It's so annoying, I just hold hands with a girl and I get a tingly feeling and get hard and when I hug or kiss a girl I get hard. I have tried thinking of other stuff so that I don't have sexual thoughts... even though I am not thinking of sex really, but I just get hard and that pre ejaculation thing sometimes comes out.
I'm not sure what this could be causing this. I do masturbate to porn a few times a week because sometimes I just get a big urge to do it. I haven't started doing anything sexual with girls yet. I seem to get nervous because I am trying to not have an erection. It seems like just touching my girlfriend makes me hard.. as soon as I go elsewhere, I go back to normal.
Any ideas on what could be causing this? I'm not sure if it might be curiousity or the feeling of not knowing what is going to happen next.. it seems to get me overly excited or something and I get hard. I could maybe stop masturbating, or, stop looking at porn
dude the same thing happens to me. theres nothing wrong with it. my gf claimed that she never turned me on and i told her that was because she turned me on all the time. At least you know youll never have problems later in life.
I just didnt think this was normal because I see other people my age that are all over their girlfriends but are not hard (not that I take my time to look down there). It seems really embarrasing because I will be sitting around with my girlfriend on the couch, she holds my hand or something and I get hard... it is so embarrasing, especially when we are with my girlfriends parents, watching TV or something... it doesnt seem right to be getting hard so easily... I woudlnt mind so much if she was actually rubbing 'down there' or something. I get embarrased by it so I am not very comfortable
Hope you don't mind a female reply.From a girl's point of view, this is a compliment.When i'm with my b/f and he gets an erection, i know that i turn him on and it makes me feel attractive....so rather than worry about it, you should feel glad that not only do your 'bits' work extremely well, but know that your g/f probably feels really pleased that she has this effect on you.
Hope you don't mind a female reply.From a girl's point of view, this is a compliment.When i'm with my b/f and he gets an erection, i know that i turn him on and it makes me feel attractive....so rather than worry about it, you should feel glad that not only do your 'bits' work extremely well, but know that your g/f probably feels really pleased that she has this effect on you.
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Yeah I had the very same problem. It's not as bad now but I was one horny kid. So don't worry about it, your erections won't be so frequent later on. Haha, I remember this girl rubbed my leg back in 8th grade and that did it. The best part is that I had sweat pants on! Your masturbating actually helps decrease your random sexual urges so whack away!
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My friend, I'm quite a bit older than you, but I remember going through exactly this kind of thing. It's frustrating and embarrassing to have no control over your body in such an intimate way, but you have to accept that it's completely normal and natural at your time of life. You get a hardon from the most ridiculous of indirect reasons, at the slightest hint of romantic interest, for no reason at all a lot of the time. Depending on how you're dressed (briefs better than boxers!) it really isn't very noticeable by anyone else, except sometimes unfotunately it happens to stick straight out. And, if you're lucky enough to have a girlfriend who appreciates it, it can be fun to share the situation.
Well, you get into your early 20s and spontaneous erections sort of fade away, and after a while you feel wistful about it--that thing sure was full of life, however troublesome it was! Fortunately, a while farther on, my experience has been that embarrassment of the opposite kind (no erection when you DO want it) hasn't yet made an appearance. So maybe the more you have to begin with, the more you'll end up with later? Anyway, it's just something you have to live through.
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I completely agree with whoever said to take your girlfriend should be pleased you think of her in that way. I consider it a compliment when my boyfriend gets hard when we're just hugging or the like. It makes me feel like I'm really appriciated.
It is pretty normal. As you gain experience, you will be able to control it better. Those other guys don't seem to have a problem becasue they have gotten used to the mental stimulation. Either that, or they are better at hiding it than you are.
I agree as well, i feel really flattered when my boyfriend (or a guy im making out with) gets hard so fast....and it turns me on alot...so dont be worried!!
Well im not a guy so.. yeah but hey i am a girl, and like its so amazing when a guy you just hold hands with or touch or something gets hard.. Its like wow!!! i must be doing something right, it is such a turn on. cuz its like yea yea they want me lol and stuff like that.. I dunno its a good thing, be appreciateve of it now cuz you might lose it when ur older, and hey once you get some other stimulation from your gf maybe it will get better teehee good luck-chrys
dont feel bad it happens to all of us. but if you cant stop it or it bothers you, you might try jackin off more often maybe once a day ,i bet that would help out quite a bit .. but whatever you do just have fun with it.hey have you told your g.f about it? maybe you should tell her and see what she says ...hope i helped..
