Ninispjc

First, I want to say how sorry I am that you went through this. Unfortunately you learned the hard way how heartless and cruel and selfish boys can be at this age. This is the main reason why it's so important for young girls to make the decision to have sex and at what age before they start getting involved with boys, so they can't be swayed like you were. Once you make up your mind that you will stay a virgin until you're 18 or until you graduate high school, etc. then some jerk can't talk you out of it. If he cares for you, he'll wait, period. In fact, that's a good way to tell whether a guy cares for you. If he pressures you to have sex before you're really ready, then he's really telling you he doesn't care about you. But I understand that young people, boys and girls, these days have so little direction when it comes to this sort of thing. You think everyone is jumping into bed with each other so why not you? But that's not the case at all. Sex is a huge responsibility. It's how human life is created, it's the bond between husband and wife, it carries with it a lot of emotional and psychological weight as well. It's not just fun you do with your body, it's a big deal and always will be, no matter how much we try to make it casual. You made a mistake, lots of young girls do. Please try not to beat yourself up over it. This jerk has to shoulder a great deal of the blame as well for what he did. You made an error in judgment, but he deliberately lied to you, manipulated you and used you. Most guys in his position will try to make you feel like you're the tramp for doing what you did, but the truth is, he's the user, the liar and the manipulator. What he did is far worse that what you did, remember that. The only shame you will bear is if you allow him to do it to you again. Like they say, "burn me once, shame on you, burn me twice, shame on me." This guy is heartless, soulless, and has no conscience, and no sense of right and wrong. He has no spine, no courage, no decency, so why waste one more minute of your precious life thinking about such a piece of garbage? Now that you know what this guy is all about, and what all of his friends, most likely, are all about, and now that you know how you really feel about having sex, wouldn't you feel so much better about things if you made the decision to abstain from sex and not do it again with anyone until you're older? I know right now 18 seems like ages away, but trust me, when you're 30, you'll thank yourself for waiting. Remember, any guy who tries to pressure you into having sex is not a guy worth having or worrying about. He has no heart and doesn't care about you. You need to care about yourself and tell these guys where they can go. You're not a piece of meat, you're a lovely, decent young girl who deserves to be treated with respect by yourself as well as by others. Chalk this experience up to lessons learned. You made a mistake, but the only tragedy would be if you didn't learn from it. Hold your head up high, knowing that your heart was in the right place and the only mistake you made was trusting a lying, conniving low-life piece of trash that didn't deserve your trust, and you've learned your lesson and you can carry on a better, stronger, wiser person for the experience. Good luck to you sweetie, and vent here anytime.