Help ME B4 I go Insane!!!! - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

HydroHero77 · 07-29-2004, 02:49 AM

Hey, I'm a new member but here goes. I have a friend she doesnt want to get to seriuose with me but I end up sleeping over and she gets me hard and we start to do stuff. This happens once like a month but once we start to have sex, she will stop 5 mins into it and im left hanging EVERYTIME. She says its not me but its her. She says she doesnt like it? that it started happening with her last boy friend when they had sex for i think 1-3 years of sex she got bored of it and somthing happend... I dunno what happend nothing BIG like rape i just think she got bored of it or somthing.. We arent going out but we are really good friends that are just attraacted to each otehr. She wants to get me off because I was a virgin until I meet her. We have had sex numberiuos tiems but I have never gotten off and I have no idea whats going on. It seems like everything I am doing is wrong. I have no ryithem ect ect and besides that I cant eeven get off.... I dunno if I'm just taking to long or what. I'm not even half way tehre when I try to do a quickie cuz i know whats gonna happen. Like maybe 15 mins is the longest she lasts. She doesnt even want to do it, but for somreason she likes to get me hard. I'm lost.... I dont even know what I'm asking any feed back is helpful

Marty286 · 07-29-2004, 02:58 AM

Maybe she feels odd because your'e such good friends. Casual sex is a dangerous thing and people can get hurt, Do you see other people? It's not for me to say what you should and shouldn't do but "Sexual Friends" to me seem wrong, If something goes wrong, not only are you not going to get any!

But you'll lose a good friend too

Talk to her about it, just ask her why she feels like that!

HydroHero77 · 07-29-2004, 03:14 AM

I dont know if we are sexual friends, we are just good friends that are attracted to each other... I like to sleep over her house because I like to feel effection, like hugging cuddeling. She some how alwasy gets me hard and i start to rub myself on her and i guess thats how it starts. I'm just really confused like is it me or what. Do girls actually even like sex? Like the process or do they just like to get off? Also when we ahve sex, I don't have much feeling in my penis like I ask her "Am I even hard?" Because I don't really feel to much like I'm not even hard. I think it maybe because shes lose? I have no idea how sex is posto feel like because she is my first.

Marty286 · 07-29-2004, 04:07 AM

Well you are friends who have sex.... Sexual friends

I can't tell you how she feels! But it depends how you see your friendship, having sex with friends isnt a common practice... at least where i'm from it isnt! You really just need to talk to her to sort it out, ask her why shes uncomfortable with it, and what you plan to do about it. If i was in your shoes I wouldn't want to get involved like that with one of my friends, it would more than likely ruin the friendship... thats just my opinion! I've also only had sex with one girl who is my current gf, but i know it feels right, just because it feels special and nice

, think of it being like a kiss, its different with everybody!

singingaholic · 07-29-2004, 09:14 AM

Maybe shes bi or something. girls do like sex, especially with guys. unless shes that kinda way.thats wrong that she messes with you and just leaves you hanging.you'll know when youre hard. trust me. i agree with marty286, i've only had sex with my current bf and i know its right and special.the rhythm and stuff will come natural to ya.